Success Secrets Still Valid
by: Wayne Van Dyck
15 top motivational gurus distilled 8 Secrets to Success they all agreed upon. These secrets are still good today and are as follows:
1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life - In a society where people blame everything from their parents, to the media, to the government, for failure, those who don't buy into this mentality or succumb to the "victim" thinking succeed. To blame somebody or something other then yourself is saying they have control of your life and not you. Someone else's opinion of you doesn't have to become your reality.
2. Live Your Life On Purpose - What separates motivational thinkers from the unsuccessful is that they don't just believe they're doing what they were put here to do; they know they're doing it. The difference between this and just living is that the latter is just getting through the week with the least problems. But when you live your life on purpose, your main concern is doing the job right. For the entrepreneur this means finding a cause you believe in and building your business around it.
3. Be Willing to Pay the Price - You should be willing to pay the price for your dreams. Wanting a big house, a luxury car, and a million dollars in the bank is all very nice, and everyone wants these things - but are you willing to pay the price to get them? This is one of the major differences between the successful and unsuccessful.
4. Stay Focused - Every day we're bombarded with an enormous amount of tasks, phone calls, messages, and everyone competing for our time. Focusing requires giving up something in the present because you are investing your time in something that will pay off huge down the road. Jack Canfield and Mark Hanson were rejected by 30 publishers when they submitted the first "Chicken Soup for the Soul" book. Instead of giving up, they stayed focused on their goal and did four or five interviews per day for radio, TV, and in newspapers. They did this five days a week for an entire year. Eventually, a small publisher decided to take a chance, and of course it became the best-seller that spawned an entire series which sold more than 10 million copies.
5. Become An Expert in Your Field - One reoccurring and prominent factor that all successful people have in common is how seriously they take their profession. They strive to be the best at what they do, are constantly improving, and will do almost anything to improve. If someone followed you around all day with a video camera at your business, would it be a tape you'd be proud of or embarrassed about? Make the decision today to work at being the best in your field. How? By finding out what the "best" in your field are doing, and do what they do.
6. Write Out a Plan for Achieving Your Goals - Write out an action plan/map for how you're going to achieve your goals. Trying to reach your goals without a plan is like trying to drive from Los Angeles to Chicago without a map. A goal that isn't written down is merely a wish or fantasy.
7. Never Give Up - Never, never, never give up. Once you're become fully committed to achieving your goal, giving up is not an option. You must be willing do whatever it takes to make it happen. The power of perseverance is an awesome force. As someone once said, "inch by inch it's a cinch". Think of the lowly inchworm - if it pondered the length of the trip from start to finish before it started, it probably would never move. To a worm's point-of-view, the garden path must look like a trip to Mars. Never give up! Keep on going like the Eveready battery bunny, and pretty soon you're there.
8. Don't Delay - Nobody knows exactly how much time they have left to accomplish their dreams and we mustn't forget that we don't have forever. The clock is ticking, and sooner or later your number comes up and you're gone. Successful achievers know this too, but they don't view it as a "negative". Achievers use it to "spur them on". They go after what they want as energetically and as passionately as possible, for as long as they have.
I had a friend who used to say, "Today is a check - cash it! Yesterday is an I.O.U. - forget it! Tomorrow is a promissory note, don't bank on it!" I think that's a pretty good summation of life, so go out there and cash in on that "today" check.
About The Author
Wayne Van Dyck is a former venture capitalist and builder of offline technology companies. He is the founder and developer of Simple Money Machines. Simple Money Machines is all the money making technologies in one, easy-to-use, hosted application… enabling non-technical people to set up online businesses in less than 30 minutes. It's made for people with 9-5 jobs, retired folks, stay-at-home moms and college students. To get a FREE copy of “STARTING A HOME BUSINESS MADE SIMPLE", go to: http://tinyurl.com/ykyoqx.
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
The Fear Of Being Alone
The Fear of Being Alone
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Gina consulted with me because her marriage was falling apart. She had discovered that her husband was having yet another affair, and when he was with her, he was either angry or withdrawn. She had requested numerous times that he join her in couples therapy, but he had no interest in healing their relationship.
Gina was financially independent and could easily leave. Their children were all adults. There was nothing to keep her in this marriage. Yet she was still there.
“Gina, why are you staying in this marriage?”
“Because I’m afraid to be alone.”
I hear this time and time again from both men and women. Why are so many people afraid to be alone?
The underlying cause of the fear of being alone is self-abandonment.
Imagine yourself as a baby being left alone – a terrifying situation. As a tiny child, you cannot take care of yourself. You cannot get food to eat or water to drink. You cannot change your own diaper. Left alone long enough, you will die.
As an adult, this is certainly not the situation. However, if you have handed over to your partner the job of your physical and/or emotional wellbeing, it feels the same as being an abandoned child. You have abandoned your inner child, handing him or her over to your partner. This is what causes the fear of being alone.
If you were taking full responsibility for yourself – valuing yourself, listening to yourself, taking loving care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, you would not fear being alone.
In your relationships, what you do you out of the fear of being alone? Do you try to control your partner or others with anger, blame, tears, or compliance? Do you put up with intolerable or abusive behavior? Do you rationalize that, no matter how bad it is, it is better than being alone? Does it feel as if you will die if you end up alone?
The truth is that the only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. We may feel lonely when we want to share love with another and there isn’t anyone there or the other person is closed to connection. But being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without. In fact, Gina was extremely lonely in her relationship, perhaps more lonely that she would have been had she been alone. She was willing to tolerate the deep loneliness and heartbreak to avoid being alone.
I worked with Gina on learning how take responsibility for her own feelings, how to manage her loneliness, and how to connect with the love, wisdom and comfort of a spiritual source of Guidance.
You are never alone, and when you learn to connect deeply with your Self and your Guidance, you will know you are never alone. It is this deep inner connection that takes away of the fear of being alone.
Gina worked with me individually in phone sessions and attended a 5-day intensive to learn the Inner Bonding process that I teach for become a loving Adult – a loving spiritually connected inner parent capable of taking loving care of her self. After practicing the Inner Bonding process for a year, Gina was ready to leave her marriage. She told her husband she was going to seek a divorce.
To her surprise, her husband agreed to do couples counseling with her. She still decided to separate from him, but they started to work together to heal their relationship. Eventually they attended a 5-day Inner Bonding Couples Intensive together.
Today, while not all the problems are healed, they are on their way to creating a solid caring relationship. Because Gina was willing to heal her fear of being alone, her behavior changed so much in her marriage that her husband was willing to open and learn with her. But even if he hadn’t, she would have been fine, since she was no longer abandoning herself.
About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Gina consulted with me because her marriage was falling apart. She had discovered that her husband was having yet another affair, and when he was with her, he was either angry or withdrawn. She had requested numerous times that he join her in couples therapy, but he had no interest in healing their relationship.
Gina was financially independent and could easily leave. Their children were all adults. There was nothing to keep her in this marriage. Yet she was still there.
“Gina, why are you staying in this marriage?”
“Because I’m afraid to be alone.”
I hear this time and time again from both men and women. Why are so many people afraid to be alone?
The underlying cause of the fear of being alone is self-abandonment.
Imagine yourself as a baby being left alone – a terrifying situation. As a tiny child, you cannot take care of yourself. You cannot get food to eat or water to drink. You cannot change your own diaper. Left alone long enough, you will die.
As an adult, this is certainly not the situation. However, if you have handed over to your partner the job of your physical and/or emotional wellbeing, it feels the same as being an abandoned child. You have abandoned your inner child, handing him or her over to your partner. This is what causes the fear of being alone.
If you were taking full responsibility for yourself – valuing yourself, listening to yourself, taking loving care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, you would not fear being alone.
In your relationships, what you do you out of the fear of being alone? Do you try to control your partner or others with anger, blame, tears, or compliance? Do you put up with intolerable or abusive behavior? Do you rationalize that, no matter how bad it is, it is better than being alone? Does it feel as if you will die if you end up alone?
The truth is that the only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. We may feel lonely when we want to share love with another and there isn’t anyone there or the other person is closed to connection. But being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without. In fact, Gina was extremely lonely in her relationship, perhaps more lonely that she would have been had she been alone. She was willing to tolerate the deep loneliness and heartbreak to avoid being alone.
I worked with Gina on learning how take responsibility for her own feelings, how to manage her loneliness, and how to connect with the love, wisdom and comfort of a spiritual source of Guidance.
You are never alone, and when you learn to connect deeply with your Self and your Guidance, you will know you are never alone. It is this deep inner connection that takes away of the fear of being alone.
Gina worked with me individually in phone sessions and attended a 5-day intensive to learn the Inner Bonding process that I teach for become a loving Adult – a loving spiritually connected inner parent capable of taking loving care of her self. After practicing the Inner Bonding process for a year, Gina was ready to leave her marriage. She told her husband she was going to seek a divorce.
To her surprise, her husband agreed to do couples counseling with her. She still decided to separate from him, but they started to work together to heal their relationship. Eventually they attended a 5-day Inner Bonding Couples Intensive together.
Today, while not all the problems are healed, they are on their way to creating a solid caring relationship. Because Gina was willing to heal her fear of being alone, her behavior changed so much in her marriage that her husband was willing to open and learn with her. But even if he hadn’t, she would have been fine, since she was no longer abandoning herself.
About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
Taking Risks For Your Success
Taking Risks For Your Success
by: Kim Brevard
My son's youth football season has come to an end, and I am left with a shocking discovery that blows me away. Kids often mimic adults and at least half a dozen of my son's teammates are afraid of taking risks associated with playing the game. These kids signed up to play football, practiced everyday with the team, but when it came time to play the game - they chickened out. Instead, they stayed on the sideline and watched. Taking risks terrified these kids so much that they preferred to remain spectators for various reasons.
Of course we know that playing football involves taking risks. Kids are taking the risk of getting hurt, making mistakes, being yelled at by the coaches and so forth. Needlessly to say, I was amazed when one of the coaches admitted to my husband that the same kids had to play both offense and defense, because other kids were afraid to play. It made me wonder why they wanted to be a part often team in the first place.
Then it dawned on me - these kids represent what many of us go through on a daily basis. Our game is life and just like these kids, many of us avoid taking risks. We like our comfort zone and do our best to avoid pain. The problem is, however, without taking risks, we never truly experience the exhilaration and thrill of success and achievement. As it stands, anything worth achieving comes with some sort of pain or discomfort. Whether it's taking the risks of starting a business, standing up for yourself, entering into a new relationship, or pursuing a promotion at work - we open ourselves up to potential loss, pain, and rejection.
Just like these kids who prefer to sit on the sidelines and watch others play, we often do the same thing. We tell ourselves things like, "I can't start my own business, the timing is not right." Or, "I don't need a relationship right now - look what happened with Mary and Bob." Meanwhile, we continue to play it safe - wanting our lives to be better, but afraid to reach for more. We allow our aversion to taking risks to keep us out of the game. We're spectators to the people who are succeeding.
The Kids Taking Risks:
Not surprising, the kids taking risks on the football field did experience the discomfort of being tackled by their opponents, yelled at by the coaches, as well as suffering injuries and making mistakes. These kids even experienced losing the game. Interestingly, these same kids taking risks experienced the thrill of scoring touchdowns, the exhilaration of making a big play, and the excitement of winning the game. The more these kids taking risks played the game, the better they became at overcoming obstacles, dealing with setbacks, and experiencing success. More importantly, these kids taking risks enjoyed the entire season and look forward to many more.
Taking Risks The Smart Way:
My son's youth football season reminded me of another important lesson when taking risks. When taking risks we need to be intelligent about it. I often wonder if the kids who were afraid of taking risks on the football field were playing the right game. Not every kid is meant to be a football player. One thing successful people often advise is to do what you love and acquire the needed skills and knowledge to succeed. Just like kids are pushed into playing sports by well-meaning parents and guardians, as adults we can be pushed into games we don't want to play either (career, relationships, etc..). If a game is not for us, then we need to find the right game.
Also, taking risks is easier when we prepare. Youth football coaches prepare their players by teaching them the game, implementing practice, studying the opponents, planning strategy and motivating the team to win. We must do the same thing. If your taking risks then why not play to win?
Just as important, don't let your external conditions decide if it's worth taking risks. Many of us do this. We decide not to pursue a new job, because of the competition or we chose not to start our own business, because similar businesses already exists. I can tell you - in football the better team doesn't always win. It's the team that's better prepared and who wants it more that usually comes out on top.
The bottom line is this - taking risks is key to your success. You can't succeed unless you play the game. Find the right game for you and start playing. Not taking risks is a risk you can't afford if you want to succeed in life.
About The Author
Kim Brevard helps you fine tune your personal growth for success. You'll be pleasantly surprised to learn how small pockets of time can benefit your self-improvement. For free strategies and tips visit http://www.self-personal.com now.
by: Kim Brevard
My son's youth football season has come to an end, and I am left with a shocking discovery that blows me away. Kids often mimic adults and at least half a dozen of my son's teammates are afraid of taking risks associated with playing the game. These kids signed up to play football, practiced everyday with the team, but when it came time to play the game - they chickened out. Instead, they stayed on the sideline and watched. Taking risks terrified these kids so much that they preferred to remain spectators for various reasons.
Of course we know that playing football involves taking risks. Kids are taking the risk of getting hurt, making mistakes, being yelled at by the coaches and so forth. Needlessly to say, I was amazed when one of the coaches admitted to my husband that the same kids had to play both offense and defense, because other kids were afraid to play. It made me wonder why they wanted to be a part often team in the first place.
Then it dawned on me - these kids represent what many of us go through on a daily basis. Our game is life and just like these kids, many of us avoid taking risks. We like our comfort zone and do our best to avoid pain. The problem is, however, without taking risks, we never truly experience the exhilaration and thrill of success and achievement. As it stands, anything worth achieving comes with some sort of pain or discomfort. Whether it's taking the risks of starting a business, standing up for yourself, entering into a new relationship, or pursuing a promotion at work - we open ourselves up to potential loss, pain, and rejection.
Just like these kids who prefer to sit on the sidelines and watch others play, we often do the same thing. We tell ourselves things like, "I can't start my own business, the timing is not right." Or, "I don't need a relationship right now - look what happened with Mary and Bob." Meanwhile, we continue to play it safe - wanting our lives to be better, but afraid to reach for more. We allow our aversion to taking risks to keep us out of the game. We're spectators to the people who are succeeding.
The Kids Taking Risks:
Not surprising, the kids taking risks on the football field did experience the discomfort of being tackled by their opponents, yelled at by the coaches, as well as suffering injuries and making mistakes. These kids even experienced losing the game. Interestingly, these same kids taking risks experienced the thrill of scoring touchdowns, the exhilaration of making a big play, and the excitement of winning the game. The more these kids taking risks played the game, the better they became at overcoming obstacles, dealing with setbacks, and experiencing success. More importantly, these kids taking risks enjoyed the entire season and look forward to many more.
Taking Risks The Smart Way:
My son's youth football season reminded me of another important lesson when taking risks. When taking risks we need to be intelligent about it. I often wonder if the kids who were afraid of taking risks on the football field were playing the right game. Not every kid is meant to be a football player. One thing successful people often advise is to do what you love and acquire the needed skills and knowledge to succeed. Just like kids are pushed into playing sports by well-meaning parents and guardians, as adults we can be pushed into games we don't want to play either (career, relationships, etc..). If a game is not for us, then we need to find the right game.
Also, taking risks is easier when we prepare. Youth football coaches prepare their players by teaching them the game, implementing practice, studying the opponents, planning strategy and motivating the team to win. We must do the same thing. If your taking risks then why not play to win?
Just as important, don't let your external conditions decide if it's worth taking risks. Many of us do this. We decide not to pursue a new job, because of the competition or we chose not to start our own business, because similar businesses already exists. I can tell you - in football the better team doesn't always win. It's the team that's better prepared and who wants it more that usually comes out on top.
The bottom line is this - taking risks is key to your success. You can't succeed unless you play the game. Find the right game for you and start playing. Not taking risks is a risk you can't afford if you want to succeed in life.
About The Author
Kim Brevard helps you fine tune your personal growth for success. You'll be pleasantly surprised to learn how small pockets of time can benefit your self-improvement. For free strategies and tips visit http://www.self-personal.com now.
Get Back Your Peace Of Mind
Get Back Your Peace of Mind
by: Nisha Sharma
In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.
1. Pay attention to your breathing.
When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.
2. Live in the moment
Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.
3. Visualire Peace
Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.
4. Be curing and sharing person
When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.
5. Do not skimp on sleep
Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.
Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.
About The Author
Nisha Sharma is Staff writer at http://Womenbrands.com. She specializes in Women Psychology and issues. You can reach her at http://www.womenbrands.com.
You can publish this article without modifying any of the content . You may be interested on women issues. Find reprint able contents on women at http://www.womenbrands.com.
by: Nisha Sharma
In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.
1. Pay attention to your breathing.
When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.
2. Live in the moment
Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.
3. Visualire Peace
Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.
4. Be curing and sharing person
When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.
5. Do not skimp on sleep
Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.
Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.
About The Author
Nisha Sharma is Staff writer at http://Womenbrands.com. She specializes in Women Psychology and issues. You can reach her at http://www.womenbrands.com.
You can publish this article without modifying any of the content . You may be interested on women issues. Find reprint able contents on women at http://www.womenbrands.com.
How To Stay Happy Always
How To Stay Happy Always
by: Dechen Lau
Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with
Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.
To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.
Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.
Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.
Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
About The Author
Dechen Lau., is an Author, Speaker and Internet Marketing Consultant
http://www.ezinenewsletter.com
http://dechenlau.blogspot.com
http://www.vipmembershiponline.com
by: Dechen Lau
Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with
Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.
To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.
Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.
Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.
Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
About The Author
Dechen Lau., is an Author, Speaker and Internet Marketing Consultant
http://www.ezinenewsletter.com
http://dechenlau.blogspot.com
http://www.vipmembershiponline.com
7 Ways To Improve Your Attitude
7 Ways To Improve Your Attitude
by: Manohar Chimmani
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
- Viktor Frankl
Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.
It is more vital than events. It's more important than what's happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude- the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.
Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:
1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.
2. Be Alive to Everything You Do
Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.
3. Broadcast Good News
No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.
4. The Power of Visualization
Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualization will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing it well.
5. Positive Self-Talk
What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"
6. Love Others
How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.
7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above
I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point!
Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!
About The Author
Manohar Chimmani lives in Hyderabad, the fifth largest city in India. Writing and Filmmaking are his passions. Online money-making is his hobby. He loves the creative outlet and freedom his hobbies and passions offer. Here's how he Makes Money and Makes Movies: http://www.growrichsmart.com.
by: Manohar Chimmani
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
- Viktor Frankl
Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.
It is more vital than events. It's more important than what's happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude- the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.
Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:
1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.
2. Be Alive to Everything You Do
Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.
3. Broadcast Good News
No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.
4. The Power of Visualization
Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualization will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing it well.
5. Positive Self-Talk
What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"
6. Love Others
How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.
7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above
I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point!
Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!
About The Author
Manohar Chimmani lives in Hyderabad, the fifth largest city in India. Writing and Filmmaking are his passions. Online money-making is his hobby. He loves the creative outlet and freedom his hobbies and passions offer. Here's how he Makes Money and Makes Movies: http://www.growrichsmart.com.
Your ZigZag Path to Success
Your ZigZag Path To Success
by: Kalinda Stevenson
"Living systems require setbacks to flourish."
Bob Pratcher
Do you ever get frustrated with your progress? Do you tell yourself that every time you take three steps forward, you then take two steps backward? Do you identify the backwards steps as setbacks and failures?
What if backwards steps are not failures at all? Would it make a difference in how you feel about your efforts if you knew that the pattern of "three-steps forward and two steps back" has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the way that all living systems work? What if going backwards is not a sign of failure, but is absolutely essential to progress?
This is the claim of Socionomics theory, which turns all kinds of conventional wisdom on its head. For example, socionomics claim that people are not in a bad mood because the stock market is down. Socionomics claims the stock market is down because people are in a bad mood. In other words, human emotions create the motion in the stock market, not the other way around.
According to this theory, "Living systems require setbacks to flourish." If this statement is true, it is a radical reframing of the "three steps forward and two steps back" pattern. It means that your setbacks are not personal failures. When you move three steps forward and two steps back, you are following the essential pattern of the all living systems.
If you read success literature, you will often see setbacks identified as tests of perseverance. The socionomics insight is deeper than this. Your setbacks are not signs of failure, and they don't occur to test your character. They are simply part of the dominating patterns underlying human systems. Instead of treating setbacks as personal failures on your part, what difference would it make for you to see setbacks as essential to your success? What if the secret to success is regular setbacks, not because setbacks strengthen your character to persevere, but because growth requires periodic pulling back?
Consider how often pulling back is necessary to gather strength. The archer with the bow needs to pull the arrow back to give it power to move forward. Muscles work only when they are contracted. The contraction of the muscle is the pullback that gives you strength. Martial arts teach pulling back as a way to gather energy. Using the energy of the pullback is the source of power.
Did you see videos of the devastating Southeast Asian tsunami? Before the tsunami wave hit, the water pulled back. Children ran out to gather exposed fish. And then the water crashed back in an enormous wave, swallowing up everyone in its path. The pullback of the water increased the strength of the wave itself. And so, what if setbacks are not really setbacks?
Socionomics identifies "three steps forward and two steps back" as the recurring pattern of all living systems. Why would you be exempt from experiencing the same zigzag pattern?
Abundance is also part of a pattern. Abundance does not come in straight lines. The root meaning of the word "abundance" refers to an overflowing wave. Just as waves ebb and flow, abundance comes in waves, with steps forward and steps backwards.
What would happen if you renamed your setbacks as pullbacks, and saw them as part of the universal process of gathering strength to propel you forward? Not because the setbacks build your character, but because the pullbacks consolidate your energy and gather strength? What difference would it make for you to recognize that both success and abundance follow a zigzag path?
Copyright (c) 2006 Debt or Alive, Inc
About The Author
Kalinda Rose Stevenson, Ph.D., Publisher of “Abundantly Alive Now! Newsletter.” http://www.abundantlyalivenow.com
kalinda@abundantlyalivenow.com
by: Kalinda Stevenson
"Living systems require setbacks to flourish."
Bob Pratcher
Do you ever get frustrated with your progress? Do you tell yourself that every time you take three steps forward, you then take two steps backward? Do you identify the backwards steps as setbacks and failures?
What if backwards steps are not failures at all? Would it make a difference in how you feel about your efforts if you knew that the pattern of "three-steps forward and two steps back" has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the way that all living systems work? What if going backwards is not a sign of failure, but is absolutely essential to progress?
This is the claim of Socionomics theory, which turns all kinds of conventional wisdom on its head. For example, socionomics claim that people are not in a bad mood because the stock market is down. Socionomics claims the stock market is down because people are in a bad mood. In other words, human emotions create the motion in the stock market, not the other way around.
According to this theory, "Living systems require setbacks to flourish." If this statement is true, it is a radical reframing of the "three steps forward and two steps back" pattern. It means that your setbacks are not personal failures. When you move three steps forward and two steps back, you are following the essential pattern of the all living systems.
If you read success literature, you will often see setbacks identified as tests of perseverance. The socionomics insight is deeper than this. Your setbacks are not signs of failure, and they don't occur to test your character. They are simply part of the dominating patterns underlying human systems. Instead of treating setbacks as personal failures on your part, what difference would it make for you to see setbacks as essential to your success? What if the secret to success is regular setbacks, not because setbacks strengthen your character to persevere, but because growth requires periodic pulling back?
Consider how often pulling back is necessary to gather strength. The archer with the bow needs to pull the arrow back to give it power to move forward. Muscles work only when they are contracted. The contraction of the muscle is the pullback that gives you strength. Martial arts teach pulling back as a way to gather energy. Using the energy of the pullback is the source of power.
Did you see videos of the devastating Southeast Asian tsunami? Before the tsunami wave hit, the water pulled back. Children ran out to gather exposed fish. And then the water crashed back in an enormous wave, swallowing up everyone in its path. The pullback of the water increased the strength of the wave itself. And so, what if setbacks are not really setbacks?
Socionomics identifies "three steps forward and two steps back" as the recurring pattern of all living systems. Why would you be exempt from experiencing the same zigzag pattern?
Abundance is also part of a pattern. Abundance does not come in straight lines. The root meaning of the word "abundance" refers to an overflowing wave. Just as waves ebb and flow, abundance comes in waves, with steps forward and steps backwards.
What would happen if you renamed your setbacks as pullbacks, and saw them as part of the universal process of gathering strength to propel you forward? Not because the setbacks build your character, but because the pullbacks consolidate your energy and gather strength? What difference would it make for you to recognize that both success and abundance follow a zigzag path?
Copyright (c) 2006 Debt or Alive, Inc
About The Author
Kalinda Rose Stevenson, Ph.D., Publisher of “Abundantly Alive Now! Newsletter.” http://www.abundantlyalivenow.com
kalinda@abundantlyalivenow.com
Expose Your Money Buttons
Expose Your Money Buttons
by: Zoe Routh
Most of the time people are not even conscious of their money buttons. The following questions will expose where your money buttons are.
What is my relationship like with money?
For example, do I think, 'money is my friend', 'money hangs out with me', 'money loves me', 'money slips through my fingers', 'money causes me stress', etc.
What are my feelings like around money?
For example, worry, fear, joy, excitement, etc.
What are my beliefs around money?
For example, money does not grown on trees, money is the root of all evil, rich people are selfish, money flows to me in abundance, etc.
What is my earliest money memory?
This is your earliest memory of the importance, role, or impact of money. Typically the memory had a strong emotional charge to it.
What did I learn about money from my family?
What kind of attitudes do my family have to money, what did they teach me (overtly or inadvertently) about money?
How does saving money make me feel?
How does spending money make me feel?
When it comes to money I should ....
How do I respond when I see images of enormous houses, a BMW or other luxury car, big diamond rings, overseas travel destinations - things that typically have a high monetary value?
What kinds of conversations do I have around money with my friends and family?
What kinds of attitudes do my closest friends have about money and wealth?
How do I explain why some people have so much money and others have so little?
Do I resonate with the following statements?
I deserve to be wealthy
I am ok with being wealthy
I enjoy my wealth
I am wildly wealthy and enjoy whatever I want
There is more than enough for everyone.
I feel good about money and my relationship with it.
What do I want from my relationship with money?
What do I not want from my relationship with money?
What would I do with $20 million?
What would change for me if I had $20 million?
If you felt uncomfortable answering any of these questions, chances are you have exposed a money button. The money button reveals old emotional patterns that were likely burned in to your psyche throughout your younger years. As a result, you would have repeated the same patterns, no matter how uncomfortable or negative, because this is what you learned at a subconscious level to be true about money. The patterns get repeated and worn in to your regular thoughts and feelings just like a path gets worn in grass through repeated use.
As an adult you can recognise that you are not getting the results you want with regards to wealth, money, and abundance and are now ready to defuse these buttons and install a more comfortable and positive money button - one that triggers feelings of excitement, energy, enthusiasm, gratitude, and pleasure.
How do you install new money buttons?
You have just completed Step 1 - become aware of them. For the rest of the steps, read my article, "Install new money buttons and feel your way to financial freedom" on my website http://www.innercompass.com.au and at http://www.innercompass.com.au/content/category/7/28/45/
Subscribe to Compass Bearings and receive updates on my forthcoming ebook, "Aladdin's lamp - your secrets to fun and financial freedom"
About The Author
Cancer survivor Zoe Routh is the Head Coach at Inner Compass, a personal development organisation that helps busy professionals work less and achieve more. Zoë is the author of ebook Absolute Productivity – a handbook for your personal and professional life. Inner Compass offers practical strategies and solutions to improve personal effectiveness and live an inspired life. We also offer tons of free stuff like articles, recommended books, and links. Sign up for our free newsletter, Compass Bearings while you’re there. Want to live with no regrets? Check it out at http://www.innercompass.com.au.
by: Zoe Routh
Most of the time people are not even conscious of their money buttons. The following questions will expose where your money buttons are.
What is my relationship like with money?
For example, do I think, 'money is my friend', 'money hangs out with me', 'money loves me', 'money slips through my fingers', 'money causes me stress', etc.
What are my feelings like around money?
For example, worry, fear, joy, excitement, etc.
What are my beliefs around money?
For example, money does not grown on trees, money is the root of all evil, rich people are selfish, money flows to me in abundance, etc.
What is my earliest money memory?
This is your earliest memory of the importance, role, or impact of money. Typically the memory had a strong emotional charge to it.
What did I learn about money from my family?
What kind of attitudes do my family have to money, what did they teach me (overtly or inadvertently) about money?
How does saving money make me feel?
How does spending money make me feel?
When it comes to money I should ....
How do I respond when I see images of enormous houses, a BMW or other luxury car, big diamond rings, overseas travel destinations - things that typically have a high monetary value?
What kinds of conversations do I have around money with my friends and family?
What kinds of attitudes do my closest friends have about money and wealth?
How do I explain why some people have so much money and others have so little?
Do I resonate with the following statements?
I deserve to be wealthy
I am ok with being wealthy
I enjoy my wealth
I am wildly wealthy and enjoy whatever I want
There is more than enough for everyone.
I feel good about money and my relationship with it.
What do I want from my relationship with money?
What do I not want from my relationship with money?
What would I do with $20 million?
What would change for me if I had $20 million?
If you felt uncomfortable answering any of these questions, chances are you have exposed a money button. The money button reveals old emotional patterns that were likely burned in to your psyche throughout your younger years. As a result, you would have repeated the same patterns, no matter how uncomfortable or negative, because this is what you learned at a subconscious level to be true about money. The patterns get repeated and worn in to your regular thoughts and feelings just like a path gets worn in grass through repeated use.
As an adult you can recognise that you are not getting the results you want with regards to wealth, money, and abundance and are now ready to defuse these buttons and install a more comfortable and positive money button - one that triggers feelings of excitement, energy, enthusiasm, gratitude, and pleasure.
How do you install new money buttons?
You have just completed Step 1 - become aware of them. For the rest of the steps, read my article, "Install new money buttons and feel your way to financial freedom" on my website http://www.innercompass.com.au and at http://www.innercompass.com.au/content/category/7/28/45/
Subscribe to Compass Bearings and receive updates on my forthcoming ebook, "Aladdin's lamp - your secrets to fun and financial freedom"
About The Author
Cancer survivor Zoe Routh is the Head Coach at Inner Compass, a personal development organisation that helps busy professionals work less and achieve more. Zoë is the author of ebook Absolute Productivity – a handbook for your personal and professional life. Inner Compass offers practical strategies and solutions to improve personal effectiveness and live an inspired life. We also offer tons of free stuff like articles, recommended books, and links. Sign up for our free newsletter, Compass Bearings while you’re there. Want to live with no regrets? Check it out at http://www.innercompass.com.au.
Anatomy of Boredom
Anatomy Of Boredom
by: Jordan Tan
This can arise from any of the following causes:-
• Lack of a true understanding of one’s own origin
• Deficiency in a complete awareness of one’s own environment.
• Devoid of an accurate assessment of the real world one’s lives in
• Ignorance of the many hidden but real threats to one’s own existence
• Obsession with one’s own little personal world of self
• Indifference to many exciting, ever available opportunities to learn
• Limited exposure to the rewarding life changing experiences richly confer to those who invest in uplifting humanity
• Unfamiliar with the countless encounters one can avail by spending time with the great, wise, creative, witty, philosophical , profound souls of historical past and present era.
• Inability to discriminate the beautiful difference between solitude and loneliness.
• Failure to sharpen one’s power and skills of communication that can make an impact in one’s own immediate circle of concern and the larger circumference beyond.
• Blissfully ignorance of the directions , motives and plots of the many social forces that influence the present status and fate of society.
• Unaware of the meaning and purpose of one’s own existence on earth.
• Have not the opportunity to discover the chasm between being religious and spiritual.
• Not taught the all interconnectivity but vital differences among the three inner components of human being- spiritual, soul and body.
• Failure to appreciate and understand the forces that influence and shape one’s life before and after one is born into this world.
• Have not explored and considered the question of What is the ultimate destiny of this world civilization.
• Have not read, digest and understand the 12 most interesting books one must read before saying good bye to this earthly life.
• Finally, the divine purpose of boredom. .
Boredom is a relentless, reckless drive from within nagging one to silence its source. None can escape its constant presence and pressure to seek for answer..
It is an affliction affecting all of us. The rich , the famous, the poor, the clever, the stupid, the talented, the ordinary, the intellectual, the young, the old, middle age, the senior citizen,
Female, male, the plain, the handsome, the powerful, the helpless. No one is exempted.
So serious is the boredom sickness it has driven countless through time immemorial to indulge in the pleasure of the senses.
Not all who seek to escape the prevailing feeling of boredom by engaging in activities design to delighting one’s senses are bad.
The pain and dullness of boredom are temporarily solved in moment of enjoyment.
Playing games , eating and drinking , watching and participating in movies, plays musicals, reading, listening exercising , participating in group activity, joining clubs, being members of society, traveling, visiting friends and climbing mountains and composing songs, writing books, and leaning new skills and so on.
However, it can become very destructive when one turns to the occults, mind alteration drugs, engaging in the playing with forces of darkness.
Boredomcure.net solution and cure, however has a refreshing difference.
It is a transmission of insight into your own inner world.
It is educating one to be sensitive to one’s. inner world as well as paying attention to the external, ever changing winds of mass moment, social trends and competitive voices of mass media.
It is anchoring one life direction to eternal value, unchanging sterling price of character building and conviction to truth .
http://www.boredomcure.net
http://www.jordantan.wordpress.com
About The Author
Jordan Tan - Love to read, write and speak. Seeking solutions and answers to life's many challenges. Married with three children.
by: Jordan Tan
This can arise from any of the following causes:-
• Lack of a true understanding of one’s own origin
• Deficiency in a complete awareness of one’s own environment.
• Devoid of an accurate assessment of the real world one’s lives in
• Ignorance of the many hidden but real threats to one’s own existence
• Obsession with one’s own little personal world of self
• Indifference to many exciting, ever available opportunities to learn
• Limited exposure to the rewarding life changing experiences richly confer to those who invest in uplifting humanity
• Unfamiliar with the countless encounters one can avail by spending time with the great, wise, creative, witty, philosophical , profound souls of historical past and present era.
• Inability to discriminate the beautiful difference between solitude and loneliness.
• Failure to sharpen one’s power and skills of communication that can make an impact in one’s own immediate circle of concern and the larger circumference beyond.
• Blissfully ignorance of the directions , motives and plots of the many social forces that influence the present status and fate of society.
• Unaware of the meaning and purpose of one’s own existence on earth.
• Have not the opportunity to discover the chasm between being religious and spiritual.
• Not taught the all interconnectivity but vital differences among the three inner components of human being- spiritual, soul and body.
• Failure to appreciate and understand the forces that influence and shape one’s life before and after one is born into this world.
• Have not explored and considered the question of What is the ultimate destiny of this world civilization.
• Have not read, digest and understand the 12 most interesting books one must read before saying good bye to this earthly life.
• Finally, the divine purpose of boredom. .
Boredom is a relentless, reckless drive from within nagging one to silence its source. None can escape its constant presence and pressure to seek for answer..
It is an affliction affecting all of us. The rich , the famous, the poor, the clever, the stupid, the talented, the ordinary, the intellectual, the young, the old, middle age, the senior citizen,
Female, male, the plain, the handsome, the powerful, the helpless. No one is exempted.
So serious is the boredom sickness it has driven countless through time immemorial to indulge in the pleasure of the senses.
Not all who seek to escape the prevailing feeling of boredom by engaging in activities design to delighting one’s senses are bad.
The pain and dullness of boredom are temporarily solved in moment of enjoyment.
Playing games , eating and drinking , watching and participating in movies, plays musicals, reading, listening exercising , participating in group activity, joining clubs, being members of society, traveling, visiting friends and climbing mountains and composing songs, writing books, and leaning new skills and so on.
However, it can become very destructive when one turns to the occults, mind alteration drugs, engaging in the playing with forces of darkness.
Boredomcure.net solution and cure, however has a refreshing difference.
It is a transmission of insight into your own inner world.
It is educating one to be sensitive to one’s. inner world as well as paying attention to the external, ever changing winds of mass moment, social trends and competitive voices of mass media.
It is anchoring one life direction to eternal value, unchanging sterling price of character building and conviction to truth .
http://www.boredomcure.net
http://www.jordantan.wordpress.com
About The Author
Jordan Tan - Love to read, write and speak. Seeking solutions and answers to life's many challenges. Married with three children.
The Power Of Your Mind
The Power Of Your Mind
by: J. Ramiro Sejas M.
THE POWER OF THE MIND
I’m sure you have heard about the power of the mind. And also I’m sure you didn’t pay attention to that concept or maybe you didn’t give it credibility. However, you must know it’s the only way you can make miracles happen in your life. By using your mind properly you can change your life dramatically. You can object telling me you do use your mind in your own benefit, but I can show you didn’t do that. Just take a look at your daily routine; breakfast, work, fast lunch, work, date to dinner or beers with friends, maybe a session in a gym, back home to sleep, and that’s it. So, along this average routine you tell me at what time of your day you are using your mind to create, to build the lifestyle you would like to have?
LIVING A PLANLESS LIFE
As most of the people we used to watch our lives passing by inside pre-established routines inherited from our society. Most of us didn’t give ourselves the time to plan a life according to our expectations. We just let life to take us to a bank like the water in a river. We are just part of the life flow giving up to a, so called, destiny we may not agree. So, why do not give us a chance and try to use this concept in to our own benefit. Why not taking few minutes a day, or more if you can, to start building the lifestyle you deserve.
THOUGHTS AGAINST FRUSTRATIONS
Everybody has some kind of frustration, even you, so you can start unloading it from your back. Now, the question is how to do it.
It’s simple and believe it or not you have used this power in the past. It happens usually when we are in front of limit situations. Remember some “big” problem you had and as consequence of thinking a lot in the way to solve it ... , almost magically like a spark of illumination, the solution just appeared in your mind! In the same way you can overcome your frustration(s) using adequately your thoughts.
WHAT TO DO
As much people build their bodies at the gym, in the same way you have to dedicate some minutes every day to overcome your frustration(s) or to change that things you don’t like in your life. The way to do it is an adequate combination of thoughts, mind training, and will.
Thoughts are powerful. If combined with the other two elements they can make miracles happen. Jesus said “if you have the faith as the size of a mustard grain, you will be able to command this mountain throw itself to sea and the mountain would obey to you”, and where is faith?... right! in your mind! Faith is just some kind of thought. Einstein discovered the rules of the universe just by using his thoughts. Oh yeah, I can imagine what you are thinking now. You think you are not a celebrity just a regular guy with a normal life and you do not believe you can do such amazing things or discoveries. Believe me, I’m also a regular guy and maybe I won’t do things that change the world history, but you and I are able to make significant changes in our lives so we can do them more accordingly to our pleasure. In short, you can make changes in your life. You can influence for good your life with the proper use of your thoughts. You can start overcoming your frustration(s). I know that because I did it.
I know you are hesitating now and that’s a good start point. You dispose some time every day to take care of your body, to take care of your health, to take care of your appearance; so why do not care about your life. Why not dedicate some few minutes a day to build in your mind, using your thoughts, the lifestyle you want and deserve. What you have to lose. In particular, make your frustration(s) disappear.
Who influences every decision you make?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your state of mind?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your humor?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your life expectations?... Your thoughts.
Who rules your life?... Your thoughts.
Who controls your thoughts?... YOU!
So? It seems you just have to train your thoughts, right?
HOW TO DO IT
For instance, if you feel frustrated with your current job then force your mind to imagine a scene with you doing exactly what you would like to do. Imagine the scene with detail. Then create a sentence in present time like “I have a good job doing which pays me xxxxx $, and makes me feel happy”. Repeat this exercise as much as you can every day; and after some time you will start to see changes.
This is the way to induce changes in your life.
Believe me, it works!
You have to try it!
You have nothing to lose!
About The Author
J. Ramiro Sejas M.
Author of “How YOU Can Overcome Frustrations In An Easy, Cheap And Simple Way”
http://www.overcoming-frustration.com
P.S. I strongly recommend you to read my e-book if you want to get results faster. Because in my e-book I use more precise examples and most important I explain the way to combine adequately thoughts, mind training, and will for you to get better results.
by: J. Ramiro Sejas M.
THE POWER OF THE MIND
I’m sure you have heard about the power of the mind. And also I’m sure you didn’t pay attention to that concept or maybe you didn’t give it credibility. However, you must know it’s the only way you can make miracles happen in your life. By using your mind properly you can change your life dramatically. You can object telling me you do use your mind in your own benefit, but I can show you didn’t do that. Just take a look at your daily routine; breakfast, work, fast lunch, work, date to dinner or beers with friends, maybe a session in a gym, back home to sleep, and that’s it. So, along this average routine you tell me at what time of your day you are using your mind to create, to build the lifestyle you would like to have?
LIVING A PLANLESS LIFE
As most of the people we used to watch our lives passing by inside pre-established routines inherited from our society. Most of us didn’t give ourselves the time to plan a life according to our expectations. We just let life to take us to a bank like the water in a river. We are just part of the life flow giving up to a, so called, destiny we may not agree. So, why do not give us a chance and try to use this concept in to our own benefit. Why not taking few minutes a day, or more if you can, to start building the lifestyle you deserve.
THOUGHTS AGAINST FRUSTRATIONS
Everybody has some kind of frustration, even you, so you can start unloading it from your back. Now, the question is how to do it.
It’s simple and believe it or not you have used this power in the past. It happens usually when we are in front of limit situations. Remember some “big” problem you had and as consequence of thinking a lot in the way to solve it ... , almost magically like a spark of illumination, the solution just appeared in your mind! In the same way you can overcome your frustration(s) using adequately your thoughts.
WHAT TO DO
As much people build their bodies at the gym, in the same way you have to dedicate some minutes every day to overcome your frustration(s) or to change that things you don’t like in your life. The way to do it is an adequate combination of thoughts, mind training, and will.
Thoughts are powerful. If combined with the other two elements they can make miracles happen. Jesus said “if you have the faith as the size of a mustard grain, you will be able to command this mountain throw itself to sea and the mountain would obey to you”, and where is faith?... right! in your mind! Faith is just some kind of thought. Einstein discovered the rules of the universe just by using his thoughts. Oh yeah, I can imagine what you are thinking now. You think you are not a celebrity just a regular guy with a normal life and you do not believe you can do such amazing things or discoveries. Believe me, I’m also a regular guy and maybe I won’t do things that change the world history, but you and I are able to make significant changes in our lives so we can do them more accordingly to our pleasure. In short, you can make changes in your life. You can influence for good your life with the proper use of your thoughts. You can start overcoming your frustration(s). I know that because I did it.
I know you are hesitating now and that’s a good start point. You dispose some time every day to take care of your body, to take care of your health, to take care of your appearance; so why do not care about your life. Why not dedicate some few minutes a day to build in your mind, using your thoughts, the lifestyle you want and deserve. What you have to lose. In particular, make your frustration(s) disappear.
Who influences every decision you make?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your state of mind?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your humor?... Your thoughts.
Who influences your life expectations?... Your thoughts.
Who rules your life?... Your thoughts.
Who controls your thoughts?... YOU!
So? It seems you just have to train your thoughts, right?
HOW TO DO IT
For instance, if you feel frustrated with your current job then force your mind to imagine a scene with you doing exactly what you would like to do. Imagine the scene with detail. Then create a sentence in present time like “I have a good job doing which pays me xxxxx $, and makes me feel happy”. Repeat this exercise as much as you can every day; and after some time you will start to see changes.
This is the way to induce changes in your life.
Believe me, it works!
You have to try it!
You have nothing to lose!
About The Author
J. Ramiro Sejas M.
Author of “How YOU Can Overcome Frustrations In An Easy, Cheap And Simple Way”
http://www.overcoming-frustration.com
P.S. I strongly recommend you to read my e-book if you want to get results faster. Because in my e-book I use more precise examples and most important I explain the way to combine adequately thoughts, mind training, and will for you to get better results.
Top 20 Qualities of Smart People
Top 20 Qualities of Smart People
by: Michelle Casto
In today’s competitive world, it pays to be smart. No matter how smart you are, I am sure there is something you could “get smarter” about. Below are some qualities of smart people. As you read the list, ask yourself: Am I as smart as I could be in this area? How could I get smarter?
1. Make Decisions Intuitively
Smart people listen to and follow their intuition. They know how intuitions and insights come to them and are tuned-in internally to make wise decisions.
2. Are Self-Aware
Smart people are aware of who they are--- strengths, weaknesses, personality, values, etc. As Confucious once said, “He who knows others is wise, he who knows himself is enlightened,” they know that the most important (and interesting) thing to know about is “self.”
3. Use Active Reflection
Smart people reflect on and learn from past experiences, finding out what works and what doesn’t, and then adjusts their course of action as needed. They think about things before jumping in, and also take the time after-the-fact to actively reflect to fully understand what happened or didn’t happen.
4. Think Out-of-Box
Smart people can easily entertain new ideas, thoughts, and ways of doing things. They crave progressive and forward thinking information, concepts, and people. They often come up with new and radical ideas on a regular basis.
5. Have An Open-Mind
Smart people are open to different perspectives and see potential where most people don’t. They would agree with what the quote, “A mind is like a parachute, it only functions when it is open.” They are comfortable with paradoxes and can relate to many sides of an issue or opinion.
6. Are Responsive
Smart people recognize and respond quickly to opportunities and people. They act and react fast, and take care of what needs to be taken care-of, well ahead of schedule.
7. Are Resourceful
Smart people don’t have to know it all, but they do know where to go to get whatever information, resources, training, education that they need. They are well-networked and have people to call on for resource referrals.
8. Question Authority
Smart people think for themselves. They do not blindly believe things so-called “experts” say, in fact, they ask deep questions to discover their own truth.
9. Upgrade Their Brain
Smart people stay smart because they are committed to being a lifelong learner. They continuously learn new things, and stay current with their skills, attitudes, and beliefs.
10. Have a Sense of Humor
Smart people do not take themselves or life too seriously. They recognize the importance of finding the fun in the irony and the comedy of everyday life.
11. Take Risks
Smart people are willing to try out new things, knowing that if it doesn’t work out as intended, failure is often cleverly disguised as a learning opportunity. They “swing out there” often, and it usually pays off.
12. Trust Themselves
Smart people believe and trust themselves first and foremost. They don’t have to check with others to make decisions, they instinctively know what is right for them and they go for it!
13. Write and List Things on Paper
Smart people have a well-developed life strategy that includes a written life vision/mission, purpose, and goals statement. They also write lists---one for “have to’s” and one for “want to’s.”
14. Are Productive
Smart people get things done, through whatever organizational/time management system that works for them. They make the most of each day and take action on important life tasks each and everyday.
15. Use Discernment
Smart people are able to discern (see clearly) other’s reasons and motives, so they selectively choose who and what to align themselves with. They surround themselves with only the highest quality people, programs, and places.
16. Read, Read, Read
Smart people tap into the collective brain power of others by reading books, magazines, articles---anything that is helpful for their own development. They are also able to filter out the information that fits for them and let the rest go.
17. Value Learning
Smart people value the process of learning for learning’s sake. They do not just learn for a specific end---to get a certificate, degree, title, etc. They learn because it is intrinsically rewarding for them.
18. Teach Others
Smart people are the teachers of the world, who share their knowledge with other people. They put themselves out there so the rest of us can benefit, and in exchange, their own learning grows and develops because they are actively talking about, researching, and understanding their subject.
19. Reinvent Themselves
Smart people do not like to stay the same, they love to grow and develop. They often play with their image, brand, company name, and expand or change it entirely. To stay ahead of the game, they often reinvent themselves time and time again.
20. Are Students of Life
Smart people not only know about specific subjects and topics, but also about what it means to be a human being at this time in our evolution. They are insatiably curious and want to know more about becoming bigger and brighter, as a result they naturally evolve.
As Lao Tzu said, “To gain knowledge, add things everyday. To gain wisdom, remove things everyday.” This is so true, our brain is like a computer and in order for it to function at a higher level, we must always be adding, while simultaneously taking away information that no longer serves us. Think about it, what do you want to remove from your database? And, what new software program will you replace it with?
About The Author
Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed., is a Whole Life Coach, Speaker, and Author of the Get Smart! LearningBook Series, which includes books and workbooks on romantic relationships, career development, life purpose/life strategy, and stress management. Her coaching practice is Brightlight Coaching. She empowers people to live with passion, purpose, & possibility and inspires people to freely shine their brightlight to the world. To learn more or to subscribe to the Get Smart! Live Smart newsletter, Visit virtually: http://www.getsmartseries.com or http://www.brightlightcoach.com.
coach@getsmartseries.com
by: Michelle Casto
In today’s competitive world, it pays to be smart. No matter how smart you are, I am sure there is something you could “get smarter” about. Below are some qualities of smart people. As you read the list, ask yourself: Am I as smart as I could be in this area? How could I get smarter?
1. Make Decisions Intuitively
Smart people listen to and follow their intuition. They know how intuitions and insights come to them and are tuned-in internally to make wise decisions.
2. Are Self-Aware
Smart people are aware of who they are--- strengths, weaknesses, personality, values, etc. As Confucious once said, “He who knows others is wise, he who knows himself is enlightened,” they know that the most important (and interesting) thing to know about is “self.”
3. Use Active Reflection
Smart people reflect on and learn from past experiences, finding out what works and what doesn’t, and then adjusts their course of action as needed. They think about things before jumping in, and also take the time after-the-fact to actively reflect to fully understand what happened or didn’t happen.
4. Think Out-of-Box
Smart people can easily entertain new ideas, thoughts, and ways of doing things. They crave progressive and forward thinking information, concepts, and people. They often come up with new and radical ideas on a regular basis.
5. Have An Open-Mind
Smart people are open to different perspectives and see potential where most people don’t. They would agree with what the quote, “A mind is like a parachute, it only functions when it is open.” They are comfortable with paradoxes and can relate to many sides of an issue or opinion.
6. Are Responsive
Smart people recognize and respond quickly to opportunities and people. They act and react fast, and take care of what needs to be taken care-of, well ahead of schedule.
7. Are Resourceful
Smart people don’t have to know it all, but they do know where to go to get whatever information, resources, training, education that they need. They are well-networked and have people to call on for resource referrals.
8. Question Authority
Smart people think for themselves. They do not blindly believe things so-called “experts” say, in fact, they ask deep questions to discover their own truth.
9. Upgrade Their Brain
Smart people stay smart because they are committed to being a lifelong learner. They continuously learn new things, and stay current with their skills, attitudes, and beliefs.
10. Have a Sense of Humor
Smart people do not take themselves or life too seriously. They recognize the importance of finding the fun in the irony and the comedy of everyday life.
11. Take Risks
Smart people are willing to try out new things, knowing that if it doesn’t work out as intended, failure is often cleverly disguised as a learning opportunity. They “swing out there” often, and it usually pays off.
12. Trust Themselves
Smart people believe and trust themselves first and foremost. They don’t have to check with others to make decisions, they instinctively know what is right for them and they go for it!
13. Write and List Things on Paper
Smart people have a well-developed life strategy that includes a written life vision/mission, purpose, and goals statement. They also write lists---one for “have to’s” and one for “want to’s.”
14. Are Productive
Smart people get things done, through whatever organizational/time management system that works for them. They make the most of each day and take action on important life tasks each and everyday.
15. Use Discernment
Smart people are able to discern (see clearly) other’s reasons and motives, so they selectively choose who and what to align themselves with. They surround themselves with only the highest quality people, programs, and places.
16. Read, Read, Read
Smart people tap into the collective brain power of others by reading books, magazines, articles---anything that is helpful for their own development. They are also able to filter out the information that fits for them and let the rest go.
17. Value Learning
Smart people value the process of learning for learning’s sake. They do not just learn for a specific end---to get a certificate, degree, title, etc. They learn because it is intrinsically rewarding for them.
18. Teach Others
Smart people are the teachers of the world, who share their knowledge with other people. They put themselves out there so the rest of us can benefit, and in exchange, their own learning grows and develops because they are actively talking about, researching, and understanding their subject.
19. Reinvent Themselves
Smart people do not like to stay the same, they love to grow and develop. They often play with their image, brand, company name, and expand or change it entirely. To stay ahead of the game, they often reinvent themselves time and time again.
20. Are Students of Life
Smart people not only know about specific subjects and topics, but also about what it means to be a human being at this time in our evolution. They are insatiably curious and want to know more about becoming bigger and brighter, as a result they naturally evolve.
As Lao Tzu said, “To gain knowledge, add things everyday. To gain wisdom, remove things everyday.” This is so true, our brain is like a computer and in order for it to function at a higher level, we must always be adding, while simultaneously taking away information that no longer serves us. Think about it, what do you want to remove from your database? And, what new software program will you replace it with?
About The Author
Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed., is a Whole Life Coach, Speaker, and Author of the Get Smart! LearningBook Series, which includes books and workbooks on romantic relationships, career development, life purpose/life strategy, and stress management. Her coaching practice is Brightlight Coaching. She empowers people to live with passion, purpose, & possibility and inspires people to freely shine their brightlight to the world. To learn more or to subscribe to the Get Smart! Live Smart newsletter, Visit virtually: http://www.getsmartseries.com or http://www.brightlightcoach.com.
coach@getsmartseries.com
Happiness: The Quest
Happiness: The Quest
by: Lambert Klein
Happiness is something many of us strive for. Why is it so hard to achieve, especially at times when you need it the most? How do we change a gloomy mood into a lighter or happier one?
There are some things within our power that will help us accomplish these goals.
What are some benefits of happiness that could encourage you to work towards it even more?
• Health • Self Confidence • A sense of Purpose • More Productivity • Achieve Your Goals • Weight Loss
Funny thing is that the above list also works in reverse. If you are healthy, self confident and all the rest listed, than you will most likely be happier. Sometimes happiness is staring us right in the face.
Here are some ways that you can create happiness in your life.
Exercise: It appears that exercising comes up a lot when we are speaking about improving various things in our lives. It has been shown to improve mood by making us healthier and increasing endorphins.
Foods & Diet: Eating chocolate is probably more of a pleasure than sustained happiness, even though it can provide us with a short-lived boost.
A healthy diet though is vital for our health and happiness. Too much sugar and junk foods are provisional emotional boosters. In the long run these problem foods will degrade us physically as well as emotionally.
Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables, including raw veggies. Cut back on unhealthy foods and don't "Super Size" it.
Supplements: If you are not receiving all of your nutrients in your diet then you may want to supplement by taking vitamins.
There are some specific supplements that target your mood. You could discuss these with your health practitioner.
Music: Music can bring miracles to your mood. Go ahead and listen to something upbeat and happy.
Rewards: Happiness comes from rewards as well. They can be simple things. You find a great bargain on something you been wanting. Maybe someone offers you a simple item of interest. You do a task and are complimented on it by someone else or yourself. Even finding a coin on the sidewalk can give you a "Reward" feeling that can bring happiness to you.
The greatest reward can come from giving a compliment to someone or saying a kind word.
Gratitude: Be grateful for what you have. This simple statement can make a giant difference in your life! Everyday think of everything you have. The enormous things, and the little things. Are you living in a cardboard box? No. Then be very grateful. Yes? Be grateful for the cardboard box.
Have gratitude for friends and family, the home you live in, the food you eat. Isn't it great having air to breath, freedom to go where you want. Don't take these for granted but have gratitude and give thanks.
Love: Well Love can clearly bring happiness. Love for your spouse, friends, neighbors and strangers. Give Love and you will receive Love. Learn to Love Yourself. Let's all remember that when we interact with others.
Enjoyment: Do what you enjoy. This could be a hobby or going for a walk in the park. If you do things that you like it's bound to bring happiness.
Forgiveness: Try a bit harder to say kind words to others. Place yourself in the other's person place for a moment. Sure there are some people that act so mean and hateful. Remember you only hurt yourself when you return meanness or hold resentment and anger inside.
Help Others: Find ways to make others happy. You may be surprised that by willingly helping others to find joy can have a positive impact on you as well. Help others to find meaning in life. Keep them company.
Build Self Confidence: Do your work the best you can. Learn new skills. Find meaning in your career and life. Enjoy a new hobby or game. You can boost your self-confidence by learning new and enjoyable things. Raise your self-confidence and you raise your happiness.
Happiness can make you smarter! Is it really surprising that positive attracts positive? If you do these things you will increase your happiness.
What is the most important thing to you? Is it money, a fancy car or a mansion, maybe your health? What about happiness?
Well let's think a moment….
If you have happiness, all the happiness you want or need, would that be the most important thing to you?
What good is money or the rest without happiness? If you are truly happy you won't need to worry about the rest. If you require money to be happy then you will have it. Maybe the saying, "Money Can't Buy Happiness", should be "Happiness Can Produce Money".
Try to release all anger and negative emotions. You can accomplish this easier once you realize you are only hurting yourself and other loved ones around you. Sure it will take regular practice. You may struggle with this, but it can become second nature after awhile.
It's up to you. Do you want to be negative and unhappy or positive and learn to be happier? You can start now by adding positive attributes to your life. Be good, smile and put on a happy face!
About The Author
Lambert Klein is the owner and founder of Articles Mall. You can find other articles at: http://www.articlesmall.com/
by: Lambert Klein
Happiness is something many of us strive for. Why is it so hard to achieve, especially at times when you need it the most? How do we change a gloomy mood into a lighter or happier one?
There are some things within our power that will help us accomplish these goals.
What are some benefits of happiness that could encourage you to work towards it even more?
• Health • Self Confidence • A sense of Purpose • More Productivity • Achieve Your Goals • Weight Loss
Funny thing is that the above list also works in reverse. If you are healthy, self confident and all the rest listed, than you will most likely be happier. Sometimes happiness is staring us right in the face.
Here are some ways that you can create happiness in your life.
Exercise: It appears that exercising comes up a lot when we are speaking about improving various things in our lives. It has been shown to improve mood by making us healthier and increasing endorphins.
Foods & Diet: Eating chocolate is probably more of a pleasure than sustained happiness, even though it can provide us with a short-lived boost.
A healthy diet though is vital for our health and happiness. Too much sugar and junk foods are provisional emotional boosters. In the long run these problem foods will degrade us physically as well as emotionally.
Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables, including raw veggies. Cut back on unhealthy foods and don't "Super Size" it.
Supplements: If you are not receiving all of your nutrients in your diet then you may want to supplement by taking vitamins.
There are some specific supplements that target your mood. You could discuss these with your health practitioner.
Music: Music can bring miracles to your mood. Go ahead and listen to something upbeat and happy.
Rewards: Happiness comes from rewards as well. They can be simple things. You find a great bargain on something you been wanting. Maybe someone offers you a simple item of interest. You do a task and are complimented on it by someone else or yourself. Even finding a coin on the sidewalk can give you a "Reward" feeling that can bring happiness to you.
The greatest reward can come from giving a compliment to someone or saying a kind word.
Gratitude: Be grateful for what you have. This simple statement can make a giant difference in your life! Everyday think of everything you have. The enormous things, and the little things. Are you living in a cardboard box? No. Then be very grateful. Yes? Be grateful for the cardboard box.
Have gratitude for friends and family, the home you live in, the food you eat. Isn't it great having air to breath, freedom to go where you want. Don't take these for granted but have gratitude and give thanks.
Love: Well Love can clearly bring happiness. Love for your spouse, friends, neighbors and strangers. Give Love and you will receive Love. Learn to Love Yourself. Let's all remember that when we interact with others.
Enjoyment: Do what you enjoy. This could be a hobby or going for a walk in the park. If you do things that you like it's bound to bring happiness.
Forgiveness: Try a bit harder to say kind words to others. Place yourself in the other's person place for a moment. Sure there are some people that act so mean and hateful. Remember you only hurt yourself when you return meanness or hold resentment and anger inside.
Help Others: Find ways to make others happy. You may be surprised that by willingly helping others to find joy can have a positive impact on you as well. Help others to find meaning in life. Keep them company.
Build Self Confidence: Do your work the best you can. Learn new skills. Find meaning in your career and life. Enjoy a new hobby or game. You can boost your self-confidence by learning new and enjoyable things. Raise your self-confidence and you raise your happiness.
Happiness can make you smarter! Is it really surprising that positive attracts positive? If you do these things you will increase your happiness.
What is the most important thing to you? Is it money, a fancy car or a mansion, maybe your health? What about happiness?
Well let's think a moment….
If you have happiness, all the happiness you want or need, would that be the most important thing to you?
What good is money or the rest without happiness? If you are truly happy you won't need to worry about the rest. If you require money to be happy then you will have it. Maybe the saying, "Money Can't Buy Happiness", should be "Happiness Can Produce Money".
Try to release all anger and negative emotions. You can accomplish this easier once you realize you are only hurting yourself and other loved ones around you. Sure it will take regular practice. You may struggle with this, but it can become second nature after awhile.
It's up to you. Do you want to be negative and unhappy or positive and learn to be happier? You can start now by adding positive attributes to your life. Be good, smile and put on a happy face!
About The Author
Lambert Klein is the owner and founder of Articles Mall. You can find other articles at: http://www.articlesmall.com/
Finding Ways to Save Time and Accomplish More Towards Goals
Finding Ways To Save Time And Accomplish More Toward Goals
by: Connie Limon
A definition of time management might be a process of gaining flexibility and cutting back time. The advantage to having a time management plan is that we are loosing something that brings us reward and gaining something that brings us bigger rewards. We end up with a “no loosing” situation if our time management plan is right.
To develop a successful time management plan we must first evaluate our time. We must sit down and ask ourselves how long does it take us to eat? How long does it take us to get dressed and groom for work? How long does it take us to prepare the meals we have to eat? Everything we do takes a certain amount of time. You might start out by writing down just how much time it takes to do each of your very have to tasks each day.
Then sit back and evaluate your list. Are you wasting 10 minutes here and there on those have to items that could be used for something else?
Where our time goes is an essential element to determine for our entire time management plan if we want to begin spending more quality with the most important people of our lives and less wasted time on some routine task. This is the absolute first step of creating your own personalized time management plan, a time management plan that will allow your more time to do the things in life that are most important to you. You must determine where you are wasting time and then decide how to use that time more effectively. Once that time is lost, there is no calling it back.
Another important element of creating a successful time management plan is to be sure and finish tasks before moving onto another task, unless you are at work, in a job that requires doing multiple tasks at one time (multi-tasking). Once you finish one task, move onto the next task and follow in pursuit of finishing all tasks. Once you finish the last task, sit back for a moment in a comfortable position and think of what you accomplished. How much time did it take you to complete task? Don’t forget to be keeping down your start time and end time. Of course this type of listing time of tasks works best for those things you do as routine each day. You want to work on completing the tasks in as little time as possible so you that you have to add in the unexpected tasks of the day or…….much better…….so that you have time to do something you really, really want to do, something that is not routinely required of you to do. For example, like visit on the phone with a favorite friend, your daughter or mother, or whoever, read some in the books you want to complete at some point or another in your lifetime.
A successful time management plan provides us with a source for more flexible schedules. When we have flexibility we have more time for ourselves. Once you have determined your priorities for time usage, then you can start adding tasks that you been putting off because you just don’t have the time to do them.
So….you now need another list of goals and plans of tasks and things you want to do but never have the time to do. One of the best ways of keeping these lists is on your computer where you can quickly erase and add to. But then again, paper in a notebook is also good, perhaps a special book.
Time management is the process of working to succeed. When we work to succeed we reach our goals. We first have to decide what those goals are, of course, and then work toward them using our time management plan. You will probably have to sit down and really ponder on what is needed to reach each goal of set of goals, and of course, decide how much time each step of the way you will need. Some people like to set short term goals, reach that goal and then set a long term goal. It might be a better plan to try and set short and long-term goals in the same time management plan. Whichever way works best for you, however, is what you should do.
Time management is essential since it demands that a person plan, act on those plans and stay focused on those goals with motivation. You must also keep reality in mind, and plan for the things out of your control that could go wrong and therefore steal time from your time management plan. Some examples would be computer failures, family illness, personal illness, inches and inches of snow and ice, horrible sudden tornados and hurricanes. It is always wise to include elements of your time management plan in accordance to what could happen out of your control. You may want to have a plan ahead of time of using your time in some other manner if your computer fails. Catch up on your paper filing or something. Right now for me, I am experiencing an internet outage. I have groomed many more Shih Tzu than the usual today in the time I usually spend answering e-mails and working on my websites.
Time management is working to succeed. If you want to succeed then you must work hard every day to meet your goals. I recently cut down my preparing and eating breakfast time by about ten minutes. Instead of my usual meal, I now mix up a Zone Shake and drink it while doing some other chore like adding to or emptying out the dishwasher, or even while opening up my daily e-mails. In reality here I am using ten extra minutes to work on my goals, rather than preparing and eating a regular breakfast.
About The Author
Connie Limon. Visit us at http://www.selfimprovementbook1.com and sign up for our newsletters. Self Improvement Book is a guide to information about self improvement, personal growth and self help tips. It is an organized directory referencing information in other websites on the World Wide Web.
by: Connie Limon
A definition of time management might be a process of gaining flexibility and cutting back time. The advantage to having a time management plan is that we are loosing something that brings us reward and gaining something that brings us bigger rewards. We end up with a “no loosing” situation if our time management plan is right.
To develop a successful time management plan we must first evaluate our time. We must sit down and ask ourselves how long does it take us to eat? How long does it take us to get dressed and groom for work? How long does it take us to prepare the meals we have to eat? Everything we do takes a certain amount of time. You might start out by writing down just how much time it takes to do each of your very have to tasks each day.
Then sit back and evaluate your list. Are you wasting 10 minutes here and there on those have to items that could be used for something else?
Where our time goes is an essential element to determine for our entire time management plan if we want to begin spending more quality with the most important people of our lives and less wasted time on some routine task. This is the absolute first step of creating your own personalized time management plan, a time management plan that will allow your more time to do the things in life that are most important to you. You must determine where you are wasting time and then decide how to use that time more effectively. Once that time is lost, there is no calling it back.
Another important element of creating a successful time management plan is to be sure and finish tasks before moving onto another task, unless you are at work, in a job that requires doing multiple tasks at one time (multi-tasking). Once you finish one task, move onto the next task and follow in pursuit of finishing all tasks. Once you finish the last task, sit back for a moment in a comfortable position and think of what you accomplished. How much time did it take you to complete task? Don’t forget to be keeping down your start time and end time. Of course this type of listing time of tasks works best for those things you do as routine each day. You want to work on completing the tasks in as little time as possible so you that you have to add in the unexpected tasks of the day or…….much better…….so that you have time to do something you really, really want to do, something that is not routinely required of you to do. For example, like visit on the phone with a favorite friend, your daughter or mother, or whoever, read some in the books you want to complete at some point or another in your lifetime.
A successful time management plan provides us with a source for more flexible schedules. When we have flexibility we have more time for ourselves. Once you have determined your priorities for time usage, then you can start adding tasks that you been putting off because you just don’t have the time to do them.
So….you now need another list of goals and plans of tasks and things you want to do but never have the time to do. One of the best ways of keeping these lists is on your computer where you can quickly erase and add to. But then again, paper in a notebook is also good, perhaps a special book.
Time management is the process of working to succeed. When we work to succeed we reach our goals. We first have to decide what those goals are, of course, and then work toward them using our time management plan. You will probably have to sit down and really ponder on what is needed to reach each goal of set of goals, and of course, decide how much time each step of the way you will need. Some people like to set short term goals, reach that goal and then set a long term goal. It might be a better plan to try and set short and long-term goals in the same time management plan. Whichever way works best for you, however, is what you should do.
Time management is essential since it demands that a person plan, act on those plans and stay focused on those goals with motivation. You must also keep reality in mind, and plan for the things out of your control that could go wrong and therefore steal time from your time management plan. Some examples would be computer failures, family illness, personal illness, inches and inches of snow and ice, horrible sudden tornados and hurricanes. It is always wise to include elements of your time management plan in accordance to what could happen out of your control. You may want to have a plan ahead of time of using your time in some other manner if your computer fails. Catch up on your paper filing or something. Right now for me, I am experiencing an internet outage. I have groomed many more Shih Tzu than the usual today in the time I usually spend answering e-mails and working on my websites.
Time management is working to succeed. If you want to succeed then you must work hard every day to meet your goals. I recently cut down my preparing and eating breakfast time by about ten minutes. Instead of my usual meal, I now mix up a Zone Shake and drink it while doing some other chore like adding to or emptying out the dishwasher, or even while opening up my daily e-mails. In reality here I am using ten extra minutes to work on my goals, rather than preparing and eating a regular breakfast.
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Dying is just another chapter in our lives
Dying is Just Another Chapter in our Lives (Ezine Ready)
Author: Pat Campbell
Most people are afraid of dying whether they admit it or not. And I was no different until I reached a better understanding of the dying process. When I was an agnostic, I used to think that when you died that was it; the end of the story. At least I hoped it was that way but underneath this belief was an underlying fear that I might have it all wrong. The question that used to surface for me was, "What if God is real? Then surely I will go to hell if I die as a non believer!"
As I progressed on my spiritual pathway I came to realise that my previous belief was all a fallacy. I know now without a shadow of a doubt that God does exist! And I also know that going to hell is not an option when we leave our earthly bodies because hell does not exist in the afterlife! Hell only exists right here on earth for a large proportion of the world's population who have nothing to eat, nowhere to sleep and no hope in their lives. It is not a place at all; it is a state of being caused by adverse circumstances, severe depression or very traumatic events. In fact, when we die, we do not go to another place at all; we go to another dimension.
But dying is not really an appropriate word; it is a human word and does not fully convey the message. It can be very difficult to describe spiritual conditions and events with human words; one can only try to do the best with this limited form of communication. On the other hand the soul can speak without restriction because it speaks in feelings and is not restricted by human language. Our souls are eternal, they have no ending. Our lives here as humans are only a chapter in our lives, a very minute chapter; one drop of water in the ocean, one grain of sand in the universe.Actually for the soul, time does not even exist because every moment it exists in the "here and now". And no human dies in vain. Our soul chooses our time of death when we have accomplished what we came here to do. Sometimes the dying itself is the mission so that others may learn an important lesson from our manner of passing.
I have absolutely no fear of dying as I have been very blessed to have had several visions of my own death as a very old lady (over 100 years old). I know when it is the time and gather my family together for a final celebration to commemorate the wonderful events we have shared and to remember the lessons we have learnt as humans. And then I feel very tired and lie on my bed in a state of peace and acceptance and let God take my soul as I embark on my journey back home. The visions were very beautiful and I have set the intention that when I leave my earthly body that it will be even more beautiful than I can imagine.
And I know that I had these visions for a reason. It is my mission in this life to help people who are dying to “find their way home”; to release their fears and resistance and go in peace. Sometimes this isn’t an easy mission from a human perspective but it is what my soul wants me to do. I do not see myself as a human being on a spiritual journey (even though I refer to it as that for simplicity). I totally identify with being a spiritual being, one who has had a rather difficult time learning how to be a human! But life is certainly much simpler since I learnt to trust my feelings and intuition rather than trying to figure everything out with logical precision.
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My aim is to help as many people as possible realise their full potential from both a human and spiritual perspective. My website provides resources for personal and spiritual development including articles, newsletter and help available by email.
Pat Campbell
\"TheArcher\"
http://www.eyeofthearcher.com.au
Author: Pat Campbell
Most people are afraid of dying whether they admit it or not. And I was no different until I reached a better understanding of the dying process. When I was an agnostic, I used to think that when you died that was it; the end of the story. At least I hoped it was that way but underneath this belief was an underlying fear that I might have it all wrong. The question that used to surface for me was, "What if God is real? Then surely I will go to hell if I die as a non believer!"
As I progressed on my spiritual pathway I came to realise that my previous belief was all a fallacy. I know now without a shadow of a doubt that God does exist! And I also know that going to hell is not an option when we leave our earthly bodies because hell does not exist in the afterlife! Hell only exists right here on earth for a large proportion of the world's population who have nothing to eat, nowhere to sleep and no hope in their lives. It is not a place at all; it is a state of being caused by adverse circumstances, severe depression or very traumatic events. In fact, when we die, we do not go to another place at all; we go to another dimension.
But dying is not really an appropriate word; it is a human word and does not fully convey the message. It can be very difficult to describe spiritual conditions and events with human words; one can only try to do the best with this limited form of communication. On the other hand the soul can speak without restriction because it speaks in feelings and is not restricted by human language. Our souls are eternal, they have no ending. Our lives here as humans are only a chapter in our lives, a very minute chapter; one drop of water in the ocean, one grain of sand in the universe.Actually for the soul, time does not even exist because every moment it exists in the "here and now". And no human dies in vain. Our soul chooses our time of death when we have accomplished what we came here to do. Sometimes the dying itself is the mission so that others may learn an important lesson from our manner of passing.
I have absolutely no fear of dying as I have been very blessed to have had several visions of my own death as a very old lady (over 100 years old). I know when it is the time and gather my family together for a final celebration to commemorate the wonderful events we have shared and to remember the lessons we have learnt as humans. And then I feel very tired and lie on my bed in a state of peace and acceptance and let God take my soul as I embark on my journey back home. The visions were very beautiful and I have set the intention that when I leave my earthly body that it will be even more beautiful than I can imagine.
And I know that I had these visions for a reason. It is my mission in this life to help people who are dying to “find their way home”; to release their fears and resistance and go in peace. Sometimes this isn’t an easy mission from a human perspective but it is what my soul wants me to do. I do not see myself as a human being on a spiritual journey (even though I refer to it as that for simplicity). I totally identify with being a spiritual being, one who has had a rather difficult time learning how to be a human! But life is certainly much simpler since I learnt to trust my feelings and intuition rather than trying to figure everything out with logical precision.
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About the Author:
My aim is to help as many people as possible realise their full potential from both a human and spiritual perspective. My website provides resources for personal and spiritual development including articles, newsletter and help available by email.
Pat Campbell
\"TheArcher\"
http://www.eyeofthearcher.com.au
Optimism vs Pessimism
Optimism Vs. Pessimism (Ezine Ready)
Author: Nick Schultz
Some people see the glass as half empty. Others see it as half full. But is it really as simple as that? Is it possible to be a bit of both? What are the advantages and disadvantages to both? Maybe there is more to both mind-sets.
When you think about it, most people tend to be an optimist sometimes and a pessimist other times. Ironically, a lot of times things turn out how the people tend to feel about them. If a person feels like something will go well or feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well. The same is true of the reverse. When someone feels like something will go badly, it tends to do just that.
So why is this?
Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can, or you think you can't, you are right!" Does this mean that what we think about, whether positive or negative, tends to happen? The only answer that I can really give to that is yes, but very basically. We cannot simply think things into existence, no matter how optimistic we are, if that is all we do. And when it comes down to it, that's not really optimism, but delusion.
But then is there any real difference between pessimism and optimism if, when it comes down to it, the results aren't any different? The short answer is yes, with an added but.
Pessimism will tend to lead to bad outcomes, whether it is because you just think things will turn out poorly and thus do not take any action, or because the pessimism will color your actions and choices and as a result you tend to do things that will make the result what you expected, the bad outcome.
Now where the but comes in with optimism is that the mere act of thinking either optimistically or pessimistically will for the most part produce not much difference in outcome, with perhaps a slight edge to the optimist. However, when you add positive, productive action to that optimism, this is when truly amazing things can happen. You can be as optimistic as you want that you will find a way to get the money for that new car or new house, but unless you are including the productive action that helps to push things to that end, you will never get there. The difference between only thinking optimistically and thinking optimistically while acting in a productive manner is kind of like saying to an empty fireplace "Give me warmth and then I will put some wood in you".
I once knew a woman who always said, "I would rather expect the worst and be pleasantly surprised on the rare occasion when good happens than be disappointed all the time". This pessimistic attitude of hers has brought her nothing but misery and strife, and yet she still thinks it has nothing to do with her. She does not realize that her pessimism is coloring her entire life and making the bad things she expects to happen actually happen. My response to her was always, "I would much prefer to expect the best and enjoy what life gives me than to constantly worry about how bad things are." For a long time, we had the same results. Then I realized that I needed to do my part and put positive, productive action behind my thoughts. And while I am not where I want to be yet, I have moved much closer to it and have been much happier along the way.
So I would say to you: be optimistic! Expect the best out of life! Expecting the best out of life is better than being miserably pessimistic. Above all though my optimistic friend, don't forget to do your part to not just think but also act optimistically.
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Nick Schultz has studied motivation and personal development for over a decade and firmly believes in the philosophy of "You can get anything you want, by helping enough other people to get what they want." He runs a free site at http://www.wealthtreeseeds.com which features daily inspirational quotes and is working to include free courses on a variety of financial and personal development subjects for his subscribers.
Author: Nick Schultz
Some people see the glass as half empty. Others see it as half full. But is it really as simple as that? Is it possible to be a bit of both? What are the advantages and disadvantages to both? Maybe there is more to both mind-sets.
When you think about it, most people tend to be an optimist sometimes and a pessimist other times. Ironically, a lot of times things turn out how the people tend to feel about them. If a person feels like something will go well or feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well. The same is true of the reverse. When someone feels like something will go badly, it tends to do just that.
So why is this?
Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can, or you think you can't, you are right!" Does this mean that what we think about, whether positive or negative, tends to happen? The only answer that I can really give to that is yes, but very basically. We cannot simply think things into existence, no matter how optimistic we are, if that is all we do. And when it comes down to it, that's not really optimism, but delusion.
But then is there any real difference between pessimism and optimism if, when it comes down to it, the results aren't any different? The short answer is yes, with an added but.
Pessimism will tend to lead to bad outcomes, whether it is because you just think things will turn out poorly and thus do not take any action, or because the pessimism will color your actions and choices and as a result you tend to do things that will make the result what you expected, the bad outcome.
Now where the but comes in with optimism is that the mere act of thinking either optimistically or pessimistically will for the most part produce not much difference in outcome, with perhaps a slight edge to the optimist. However, when you add positive, productive action to that optimism, this is when truly amazing things can happen. You can be as optimistic as you want that you will find a way to get the money for that new car or new house, but unless you are including the productive action that helps to push things to that end, you will never get there. The difference between only thinking optimistically and thinking optimistically while acting in a productive manner is kind of like saying to an empty fireplace "Give me warmth and then I will put some wood in you".
I once knew a woman who always said, "I would rather expect the worst and be pleasantly surprised on the rare occasion when good happens than be disappointed all the time". This pessimistic attitude of hers has brought her nothing but misery and strife, and yet she still thinks it has nothing to do with her. She does not realize that her pessimism is coloring her entire life and making the bad things she expects to happen actually happen. My response to her was always, "I would much prefer to expect the best and enjoy what life gives me than to constantly worry about how bad things are." For a long time, we had the same results. Then I realized that I needed to do my part and put positive, productive action behind my thoughts. And while I am not where I want to be yet, I have moved much closer to it and have been much happier along the way.
So I would say to you: be optimistic! Expect the best out of life! Expecting the best out of life is better than being miserably pessimistic. Above all though my optimistic friend, don't forget to do your part to not just think but also act optimistically.
Source: Free Articles from ArticlesBase.com
About the Author:
Nick Schultz has studied motivation and personal development for over a decade and firmly believes in the philosophy of "You can get anything you want, by helping enough other people to get what they want." He runs a free site at http://www.wealthtreeseeds.com which features daily inspirational quotes and is working to include free courses on a variety of financial and personal development subjects for his subscribers.
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