Success Secrets Still Valid
by: Wayne Van Dyck
15 top motivational gurus distilled 8 Secrets to Success they all agreed upon. These secrets are still good today and are as follows:
1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life - In a society where people blame everything from their parents, to the media, to the government, for failure, those who don't buy into this mentality or succumb to the "victim" thinking succeed. To blame somebody or something other then yourself is saying they have control of your life and not you. Someone else's opinion of you doesn't have to become your reality.
2. Live Your Life On Purpose - What separates motivational thinkers from the unsuccessful is that they don't just believe they're doing what they were put here to do; they know they're doing it. The difference between this and just living is that the latter is just getting through the week with the least problems. But when you live your life on purpose, your main concern is doing the job right. For the entrepreneur this means finding a cause you believe in and building your business around it.
3. Be Willing to Pay the Price - You should be willing to pay the price for your dreams. Wanting a big house, a luxury car, and a million dollars in the bank is all very nice, and everyone wants these things - but are you willing to pay the price to get them? This is one of the major differences between the successful and unsuccessful.
4. Stay Focused - Every day we're bombarded with an enormous amount of tasks, phone calls, messages, and everyone competing for our time. Focusing requires giving up something in the present because you are investing your time in something that will pay off huge down the road. Jack Canfield and Mark Hanson were rejected by 30 publishers when they submitted the first "Chicken Soup for the Soul" book. Instead of giving up, they stayed focused on their goal and did four or five interviews per day for radio, TV, and in newspapers. They did this five days a week for an entire year. Eventually, a small publisher decided to take a chance, and of course it became the best-seller that spawned an entire series which sold more than 10 million copies.
5. Become An Expert in Your Field - One reoccurring and prominent factor that all successful people have in common is how seriously they take their profession. They strive to be the best at what they do, are constantly improving, and will do almost anything to improve. If someone followed you around all day with a video camera at your business, would it be a tape you'd be proud of or embarrassed about? Make the decision today to work at being the best in your field. How? By finding out what the "best" in your field are doing, and do what they do.
6. Write Out a Plan for Achieving Your Goals - Write out an action plan/map for how you're going to achieve your goals. Trying to reach your goals without a plan is like trying to drive from Los Angeles to Chicago without a map. A goal that isn't written down is merely a wish or fantasy.
7. Never Give Up - Never, never, never give up. Once you're become fully committed to achieving your goal, giving up is not an option. You must be willing do whatever it takes to make it happen. The power of perseverance is an awesome force. As someone once said, "inch by inch it's a cinch". Think of the lowly inchworm - if it pondered the length of the trip from start to finish before it started, it probably would never move. To a worm's point-of-view, the garden path must look like a trip to Mars. Never give up! Keep on going like the Eveready battery bunny, and pretty soon you're there.
8. Don't Delay - Nobody knows exactly how much time they have left to accomplish their dreams and we mustn't forget that we don't have forever. The clock is ticking, and sooner or later your number comes up and you're gone. Successful achievers know this too, but they don't view it as a "negative". Achievers use it to "spur them on". They go after what they want as energetically and as passionately as possible, for as long as they have.
I had a friend who used to say, "Today is a check - cash it! Yesterday is an I.O.U. - forget it! Tomorrow is a promissory note, don't bank on it!" I think that's a pretty good summation of life, so go out there and cash in on that "today" check.
About The Author
Wayne Van Dyck is a former venture capitalist and builder of offline technology companies. He is the founder and developer of Simple Money Machines. Simple Money Machines is all the money making technologies in one, easy-to-use, hosted application… enabling non-technical people to set up online businesses in less than 30 minutes. It's made for people with 9-5 jobs, retired folks, stay-at-home moms and college students. To get a FREE copy of “STARTING A HOME BUSINESS MADE SIMPLE", go to: http://tinyurl.com/ykyoqx.
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
The Fear Of Being Alone
The Fear of Being Alone
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Gina consulted with me because her marriage was falling apart. She had discovered that her husband was having yet another affair, and when he was with her, he was either angry or withdrawn. She had requested numerous times that he join her in couples therapy, but he had no interest in healing their relationship.
Gina was financially independent and could easily leave. Their children were all adults. There was nothing to keep her in this marriage. Yet she was still there.
“Gina, why are you staying in this marriage?”
“Because I’m afraid to be alone.”
I hear this time and time again from both men and women. Why are so many people afraid to be alone?
The underlying cause of the fear of being alone is self-abandonment.
Imagine yourself as a baby being left alone – a terrifying situation. As a tiny child, you cannot take care of yourself. You cannot get food to eat or water to drink. You cannot change your own diaper. Left alone long enough, you will die.
As an adult, this is certainly not the situation. However, if you have handed over to your partner the job of your physical and/or emotional wellbeing, it feels the same as being an abandoned child. You have abandoned your inner child, handing him or her over to your partner. This is what causes the fear of being alone.
If you were taking full responsibility for yourself – valuing yourself, listening to yourself, taking loving care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, you would not fear being alone.
In your relationships, what you do you out of the fear of being alone? Do you try to control your partner or others with anger, blame, tears, or compliance? Do you put up with intolerable or abusive behavior? Do you rationalize that, no matter how bad it is, it is better than being alone? Does it feel as if you will die if you end up alone?
The truth is that the only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. We may feel lonely when we want to share love with another and there isn’t anyone there or the other person is closed to connection. But being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without. In fact, Gina was extremely lonely in her relationship, perhaps more lonely that she would have been had she been alone. She was willing to tolerate the deep loneliness and heartbreak to avoid being alone.
I worked with Gina on learning how take responsibility for her own feelings, how to manage her loneliness, and how to connect with the love, wisdom and comfort of a spiritual source of Guidance.
You are never alone, and when you learn to connect deeply with your Self and your Guidance, you will know you are never alone. It is this deep inner connection that takes away of the fear of being alone.
Gina worked with me individually in phone sessions and attended a 5-day intensive to learn the Inner Bonding process that I teach for become a loving Adult – a loving spiritually connected inner parent capable of taking loving care of her self. After practicing the Inner Bonding process for a year, Gina was ready to leave her marriage. She told her husband she was going to seek a divorce.
To her surprise, her husband agreed to do couples counseling with her. She still decided to separate from him, but they started to work together to heal their relationship. Eventually they attended a 5-day Inner Bonding Couples Intensive together.
Today, while not all the problems are healed, they are on their way to creating a solid caring relationship. Because Gina was willing to heal her fear of being alone, her behavior changed so much in her marriage that her husband was willing to open and learn with her. But even if he hadn’t, she would have been fine, since she was no longer abandoning herself.
About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Gina consulted with me because her marriage was falling apart. She had discovered that her husband was having yet another affair, and when he was with her, he was either angry or withdrawn. She had requested numerous times that he join her in couples therapy, but he had no interest in healing their relationship.
Gina was financially independent and could easily leave. Their children were all adults. There was nothing to keep her in this marriage. Yet she was still there.
“Gina, why are you staying in this marriage?”
“Because I’m afraid to be alone.”
I hear this time and time again from both men and women. Why are so many people afraid to be alone?
The underlying cause of the fear of being alone is self-abandonment.
Imagine yourself as a baby being left alone – a terrifying situation. As a tiny child, you cannot take care of yourself. You cannot get food to eat or water to drink. You cannot change your own diaper. Left alone long enough, you will die.
As an adult, this is certainly not the situation. However, if you have handed over to your partner the job of your physical and/or emotional wellbeing, it feels the same as being an abandoned child. You have abandoned your inner child, handing him or her over to your partner. This is what causes the fear of being alone.
If you were taking full responsibility for yourself – valuing yourself, listening to yourself, taking loving care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, you would not fear being alone.
In your relationships, what you do you out of the fear of being alone? Do you try to control your partner or others with anger, blame, tears, or compliance? Do you put up with intolerable or abusive behavior? Do you rationalize that, no matter how bad it is, it is better than being alone? Does it feel as if you will die if you end up alone?
The truth is that the only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. We may feel lonely when we want to share love with another and there isn’t anyone there or the other person is closed to connection. But being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without. In fact, Gina was extremely lonely in her relationship, perhaps more lonely that she would have been had she been alone. She was willing to tolerate the deep loneliness and heartbreak to avoid being alone.
I worked with Gina on learning how take responsibility for her own feelings, how to manage her loneliness, and how to connect with the love, wisdom and comfort of a spiritual source of Guidance.
You are never alone, and when you learn to connect deeply with your Self and your Guidance, you will know you are never alone. It is this deep inner connection that takes away of the fear of being alone.
Gina worked with me individually in phone sessions and attended a 5-day intensive to learn the Inner Bonding process that I teach for become a loving Adult – a loving spiritually connected inner parent capable of taking loving care of her self. After practicing the Inner Bonding process for a year, Gina was ready to leave her marriage. She told her husband she was going to seek a divorce.
To her surprise, her husband agreed to do couples counseling with her. She still decided to separate from him, but they started to work together to heal their relationship. Eventually they attended a 5-day Inner Bonding Couples Intensive together.
Today, while not all the problems are healed, they are on their way to creating a solid caring relationship. Because Gina was willing to heal her fear of being alone, her behavior changed so much in her marriage that her husband was willing to open and learn with her. But even if he hadn’t, she would have been fine, since she was no longer abandoning herself.
About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
Taking Risks For Your Success
Taking Risks For Your Success
by: Kim Brevard
My son's youth football season has come to an end, and I am left with a shocking discovery that blows me away. Kids often mimic adults and at least half a dozen of my son's teammates are afraid of taking risks associated with playing the game. These kids signed up to play football, practiced everyday with the team, but when it came time to play the game - they chickened out. Instead, they stayed on the sideline and watched. Taking risks terrified these kids so much that they preferred to remain spectators for various reasons.
Of course we know that playing football involves taking risks. Kids are taking the risk of getting hurt, making mistakes, being yelled at by the coaches and so forth. Needlessly to say, I was amazed when one of the coaches admitted to my husband that the same kids had to play both offense and defense, because other kids were afraid to play. It made me wonder why they wanted to be a part often team in the first place.
Then it dawned on me - these kids represent what many of us go through on a daily basis. Our game is life and just like these kids, many of us avoid taking risks. We like our comfort zone and do our best to avoid pain. The problem is, however, without taking risks, we never truly experience the exhilaration and thrill of success and achievement. As it stands, anything worth achieving comes with some sort of pain or discomfort. Whether it's taking the risks of starting a business, standing up for yourself, entering into a new relationship, or pursuing a promotion at work - we open ourselves up to potential loss, pain, and rejection.
Just like these kids who prefer to sit on the sidelines and watch others play, we often do the same thing. We tell ourselves things like, "I can't start my own business, the timing is not right." Or, "I don't need a relationship right now - look what happened with Mary and Bob." Meanwhile, we continue to play it safe - wanting our lives to be better, but afraid to reach for more. We allow our aversion to taking risks to keep us out of the game. We're spectators to the people who are succeeding.
The Kids Taking Risks:
Not surprising, the kids taking risks on the football field did experience the discomfort of being tackled by their opponents, yelled at by the coaches, as well as suffering injuries and making mistakes. These kids even experienced losing the game. Interestingly, these same kids taking risks experienced the thrill of scoring touchdowns, the exhilaration of making a big play, and the excitement of winning the game. The more these kids taking risks played the game, the better they became at overcoming obstacles, dealing with setbacks, and experiencing success. More importantly, these kids taking risks enjoyed the entire season and look forward to many more.
Taking Risks The Smart Way:
My son's youth football season reminded me of another important lesson when taking risks. When taking risks we need to be intelligent about it. I often wonder if the kids who were afraid of taking risks on the football field were playing the right game. Not every kid is meant to be a football player. One thing successful people often advise is to do what you love and acquire the needed skills and knowledge to succeed. Just like kids are pushed into playing sports by well-meaning parents and guardians, as adults we can be pushed into games we don't want to play either (career, relationships, etc..). If a game is not for us, then we need to find the right game.
Also, taking risks is easier when we prepare. Youth football coaches prepare their players by teaching them the game, implementing practice, studying the opponents, planning strategy and motivating the team to win. We must do the same thing. If your taking risks then why not play to win?
Just as important, don't let your external conditions decide if it's worth taking risks. Many of us do this. We decide not to pursue a new job, because of the competition or we chose not to start our own business, because similar businesses already exists. I can tell you - in football the better team doesn't always win. It's the team that's better prepared and who wants it more that usually comes out on top.
The bottom line is this - taking risks is key to your success. You can't succeed unless you play the game. Find the right game for you and start playing. Not taking risks is a risk you can't afford if you want to succeed in life.
About The Author
Kim Brevard helps you fine tune your personal growth for success. You'll be pleasantly surprised to learn how small pockets of time can benefit your self-improvement. For free strategies and tips visit http://www.self-personal.com now.
by: Kim Brevard
My son's youth football season has come to an end, and I am left with a shocking discovery that blows me away. Kids often mimic adults and at least half a dozen of my son's teammates are afraid of taking risks associated with playing the game. These kids signed up to play football, practiced everyday with the team, but when it came time to play the game - they chickened out. Instead, they stayed on the sideline and watched. Taking risks terrified these kids so much that they preferred to remain spectators for various reasons.
Of course we know that playing football involves taking risks. Kids are taking the risk of getting hurt, making mistakes, being yelled at by the coaches and so forth. Needlessly to say, I was amazed when one of the coaches admitted to my husband that the same kids had to play both offense and defense, because other kids were afraid to play. It made me wonder why they wanted to be a part often team in the first place.
Then it dawned on me - these kids represent what many of us go through on a daily basis. Our game is life and just like these kids, many of us avoid taking risks. We like our comfort zone and do our best to avoid pain. The problem is, however, without taking risks, we never truly experience the exhilaration and thrill of success and achievement. As it stands, anything worth achieving comes with some sort of pain or discomfort. Whether it's taking the risks of starting a business, standing up for yourself, entering into a new relationship, or pursuing a promotion at work - we open ourselves up to potential loss, pain, and rejection.
Just like these kids who prefer to sit on the sidelines and watch others play, we often do the same thing. We tell ourselves things like, "I can't start my own business, the timing is not right." Or, "I don't need a relationship right now - look what happened with Mary and Bob." Meanwhile, we continue to play it safe - wanting our lives to be better, but afraid to reach for more. We allow our aversion to taking risks to keep us out of the game. We're spectators to the people who are succeeding.
The Kids Taking Risks:
Not surprising, the kids taking risks on the football field did experience the discomfort of being tackled by their opponents, yelled at by the coaches, as well as suffering injuries and making mistakes. These kids even experienced losing the game. Interestingly, these same kids taking risks experienced the thrill of scoring touchdowns, the exhilaration of making a big play, and the excitement of winning the game. The more these kids taking risks played the game, the better they became at overcoming obstacles, dealing with setbacks, and experiencing success. More importantly, these kids taking risks enjoyed the entire season and look forward to many more.
Taking Risks The Smart Way:
My son's youth football season reminded me of another important lesson when taking risks. When taking risks we need to be intelligent about it. I often wonder if the kids who were afraid of taking risks on the football field were playing the right game. Not every kid is meant to be a football player. One thing successful people often advise is to do what you love and acquire the needed skills and knowledge to succeed. Just like kids are pushed into playing sports by well-meaning parents and guardians, as adults we can be pushed into games we don't want to play either (career, relationships, etc..). If a game is not for us, then we need to find the right game.
Also, taking risks is easier when we prepare. Youth football coaches prepare their players by teaching them the game, implementing practice, studying the opponents, planning strategy and motivating the team to win. We must do the same thing. If your taking risks then why not play to win?
Just as important, don't let your external conditions decide if it's worth taking risks. Many of us do this. We decide not to pursue a new job, because of the competition or we chose not to start our own business, because similar businesses already exists. I can tell you - in football the better team doesn't always win. It's the team that's better prepared and who wants it more that usually comes out on top.
The bottom line is this - taking risks is key to your success. You can't succeed unless you play the game. Find the right game for you and start playing. Not taking risks is a risk you can't afford if you want to succeed in life.
About The Author
Kim Brevard helps you fine tune your personal growth for success. You'll be pleasantly surprised to learn how small pockets of time can benefit your self-improvement. For free strategies and tips visit http://www.self-personal.com now.
Get Back Your Peace Of Mind
Get Back Your Peace of Mind
by: Nisha Sharma
In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.
1. Pay attention to your breathing.
When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.
2. Live in the moment
Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.
3. Visualire Peace
Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.
4. Be curing and sharing person
When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.
5. Do not skimp on sleep
Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.
Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.
About The Author
Nisha Sharma is Staff writer at http://Womenbrands.com. She specializes in Women Psychology and issues. You can reach her at http://www.womenbrands.com.
You can publish this article without modifying any of the content . You may be interested on women issues. Find reprint able contents on women at http://www.womenbrands.com.
by: Nisha Sharma
In this hard charging world of cut and dry competition, what people really want is Tranquility; calmness; serenity and peace of mind. Yes there is a very simple way to cultivate tranquility. Try these methods.
1. Pay attention to your breathing.
When stress or anxiety strike, try to concentrate on your breathing. A simple breathing exercise can help you moving from anxiety to relaxation. Try this for at least a whole minutes. When you inhale say peace in. And at the time of exhaling say anxiety out.
2. Live in the moment
Once a person asked Buddha, “what you and your student practice. “He replied,-“We sit, we walk and we eat.” What that means. He further clarify that when he sit he know it. When he walk he know that. When he is hungry, he eat stomach full. Too much energy and time get lost in worrying about the coming future and getting frustrated about the future. Free yourself from pain of past and tear of future. Enjoy life.
3. Visualire Peace
Creating a relaxing picture in your mind will deliver peace while dissolving tensions. Psychiatrist advice for choosing picture, that equate with relaxation. A beach at sunrise, a forest deep in mountains.
4. Be curing and sharing person
When you care and share, you do same with tension to. It helps to dissolve it. Do you remember the story of Hell and Heaven. In hell there were people sitting in a room, under nourished, hungry. They had spoon and hot saucy food. But the handle of spoon were bigger than their hands. So they can’t fed themselves. While in heaven people were happy, healthy and joyful. The reason was they were feeding person next to them. So each one were getting good care and food.
5. Do not skimp on sleep
Many people are anxious and agitated, because they are not getting enough sleep. Faxt is if you do not sleep well you feel lousy and tired. It shows on your face. Your outlook of life become negative. Your body need enough time to regain it lost juice. Give it a break each night.
Dissolve tension and frustration with these diary notes stick to them for sometime and see the result.
About The Author
Nisha Sharma is Staff writer at http://Womenbrands.com. She specializes in Women Psychology and issues. You can reach her at http://www.womenbrands.com.
You can publish this article without modifying any of the content . You may be interested on women issues. Find reprint able contents on women at http://www.womenbrands.com.
How To Stay Happy Always
How To Stay Happy Always
by: Dechen Lau
Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with
Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.
To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.
Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.
Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.
Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
About The Author
Dechen Lau., is an Author, Speaker and Internet Marketing Consultant
http://www.ezinenewsletter.com
http://dechenlau.blogspot.com
http://www.vipmembershiponline.com
by: Dechen Lau
Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with
Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.
To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.
Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.
Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.
Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
About The Author
Dechen Lau., is an Author, Speaker and Internet Marketing Consultant
http://www.ezinenewsletter.com
http://dechenlau.blogspot.com
http://www.vipmembershiponline.com
7 Ways To Improve Your Attitude
7 Ways To Improve Your Attitude
by: Manohar Chimmani
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
- Viktor Frankl
Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.
It is more vital than events. It's more important than what's happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude- the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.
Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:
1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.
2. Be Alive to Everything You Do
Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.
3. Broadcast Good News
No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.
4. The Power of Visualization
Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualization will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing it well.
5. Positive Self-Talk
What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"
6. Love Others
How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.
7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above
I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point!
Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!
About The Author
Manohar Chimmani lives in Hyderabad, the fifth largest city in India. Writing and Filmmaking are his passions. Online money-making is his hobby. He loves the creative outlet and freedom his hobbies and passions offer. Here's how he Makes Money and Makes Movies: http://www.growrichsmart.com.
by: Manohar Chimmani
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
- Viktor Frankl
Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.
It is more vital than events. It's more important than what's happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude- the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.
Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:
1. Choose to be Enthusiastic
Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.
2. Be Alive to Everything You Do
Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.
3. Broadcast Good News
No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.
4. The Power of Visualization
Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualization will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing it well.
5. Positive Self-Talk
What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"
6. Love Others
How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.
7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above
I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point!
Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!
About The Author
Manohar Chimmani lives in Hyderabad, the fifth largest city in India. Writing and Filmmaking are his passions. Online money-making is his hobby. He loves the creative outlet and freedom his hobbies and passions offer. Here's how he Makes Money and Makes Movies: http://www.growrichsmart.com.
Your ZigZag Path to Success
Your ZigZag Path To Success
by: Kalinda Stevenson
"Living systems require setbacks to flourish."
Bob Pratcher
Do you ever get frustrated with your progress? Do you tell yourself that every time you take three steps forward, you then take two steps backward? Do you identify the backwards steps as setbacks and failures?
What if backwards steps are not failures at all? Would it make a difference in how you feel about your efforts if you knew that the pattern of "three-steps forward and two steps back" has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the way that all living systems work? What if going backwards is not a sign of failure, but is absolutely essential to progress?
This is the claim of Socionomics theory, which turns all kinds of conventional wisdom on its head. For example, socionomics claim that people are not in a bad mood because the stock market is down. Socionomics claims the stock market is down because people are in a bad mood. In other words, human emotions create the motion in the stock market, not the other way around.
According to this theory, "Living systems require setbacks to flourish." If this statement is true, it is a radical reframing of the "three steps forward and two steps back" pattern. It means that your setbacks are not personal failures. When you move three steps forward and two steps back, you are following the essential pattern of the all living systems.
If you read success literature, you will often see setbacks identified as tests of perseverance. The socionomics insight is deeper than this. Your setbacks are not signs of failure, and they don't occur to test your character. They are simply part of the dominating patterns underlying human systems. Instead of treating setbacks as personal failures on your part, what difference would it make for you to see setbacks as essential to your success? What if the secret to success is regular setbacks, not because setbacks strengthen your character to persevere, but because growth requires periodic pulling back?
Consider how often pulling back is necessary to gather strength. The archer with the bow needs to pull the arrow back to give it power to move forward. Muscles work only when they are contracted. The contraction of the muscle is the pullback that gives you strength. Martial arts teach pulling back as a way to gather energy. Using the energy of the pullback is the source of power.
Did you see videos of the devastating Southeast Asian tsunami? Before the tsunami wave hit, the water pulled back. Children ran out to gather exposed fish. And then the water crashed back in an enormous wave, swallowing up everyone in its path. The pullback of the water increased the strength of the wave itself. And so, what if setbacks are not really setbacks?
Socionomics identifies "three steps forward and two steps back" as the recurring pattern of all living systems. Why would you be exempt from experiencing the same zigzag pattern?
Abundance is also part of a pattern. Abundance does not come in straight lines. The root meaning of the word "abundance" refers to an overflowing wave. Just as waves ebb and flow, abundance comes in waves, with steps forward and steps backwards.
What would happen if you renamed your setbacks as pullbacks, and saw them as part of the universal process of gathering strength to propel you forward? Not because the setbacks build your character, but because the pullbacks consolidate your energy and gather strength? What difference would it make for you to recognize that both success and abundance follow a zigzag path?
Copyright (c) 2006 Debt or Alive, Inc
About The Author
Kalinda Rose Stevenson, Ph.D., Publisher of “Abundantly Alive Now! Newsletter.” http://www.abundantlyalivenow.com
kalinda@abundantlyalivenow.com
by: Kalinda Stevenson
"Living systems require setbacks to flourish."
Bob Pratcher
Do you ever get frustrated with your progress? Do you tell yourself that every time you take three steps forward, you then take two steps backward? Do you identify the backwards steps as setbacks and failures?
What if backwards steps are not failures at all? Would it make a difference in how you feel about your efforts if you knew that the pattern of "three-steps forward and two steps back" has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the way that all living systems work? What if going backwards is not a sign of failure, but is absolutely essential to progress?
This is the claim of Socionomics theory, which turns all kinds of conventional wisdom on its head. For example, socionomics claim that people are not in a bad mood because the stock market is down. Socionomics claims the stock market is down because people are in a bad mood. In other words, human emotions create the motion in the stock market, not the other way around.
According to this theory, "Living systems require setbacks to flourish." If this statement is true, it is a radical reframing of the "three steps forward and two steps back" pattern. It means that your setbacks are not personal failures. When you move three steps forward and two steps back, you are following the essential pattern of the all living systems.
If you read success literature, you will often see setbacks identified as tests of perseverance. The socionomics insight is deeper than this. Your setbacks are not signs of failure, and they don't occur to test your character. They are simply part of the dominating patterns underlying human systems. Instead of treating setbacks as personal failures on your part, what difference would it make for you to see setbacks as essential to your success? What if the secret to success is regular setbacks, not because setbacks strengthen your character to persevere, but because growth requires periodic pulling back?
Consider how often pulling back is necessary to gather strength. The archer with the bow needs to pull the arrow back to give it power to move forward. Muscles work only when they are contracted. The contraction of the muscle is the pullback that gives you strength. Martial arts teach pulling back as a way to gather energy. Using the energy of the pullback is the source of power.
Did you see videos of the devastating Southeast Asian tsunami? Before the tsunami wave hit, the water pulled back. Children ran out to gather exposed fish. And then the water crashed back in an enormous wave, swallowing up everyone in its path. The pullback of the water increased the strength of the wave itself. And so, what if setbacks are not really setbacks?
Socionomics identifies "three steps forward and two steps back" as the recurring pattern of all living systems. Why would you be exempt from experiencing the same zigzag pattern?
Abundance is also part of a pattern. Abundance does not come in straight lines. The root meaning of the word "abundance" refers to an overflowing wave. Just as waves ebb and flow, abundance comes in waves, with steps forward and steps backwards.
What would happen if you renamed your setbacks as pullbacks, and saw them as part of the universal process of gathering strength to propel you forward? Not because the setbacks build your character, but because the pullbacks consolidate your energy and gather strength? What difference would it make for you to recognize that both success and abundance follow a zigzag path?
Copyright (c) 2006 Debt or Alive, Inc
About The Author
Kalinda Rose Stevenson, Ph.D., Publisher of “Abundantly Alive Now! Newsletter.” http://www.abundantlyalivenow.com
kalinda@abundantlyalivenow.com
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